I Feel Rather Silly Now

[Samuraisan]

My brother and I are quite close, but never demonstrative or use the L word and see one another now and then when we can,usually when SIL is away, due to his wife's possesiveness. Anyway, that is old history. He was admitted into hospital yesterday for a sigmoid resection and after a couple of glasses of wine I sent a message and said " try to sleep well, I love you ". Now I feel a but embarrassed.........

[woofgang]

Don't feel embarassed. he's probably very scared and your message helped. I hope all goes well for him.

[Sqad]

LOL...LOL..."I love you" is banded about all over the place now, meaning different things to different people in different situations.

To me....it is meaningless and i never use the wretched phrase.
Don't let it worry you Sam.

[woofgang]

I have only ever said it when I meant it.

[Rosie29]

Try not to feel embarrassed - it was a lovely thought and it's how you felt at the time and if he's feeling a bit poorly I'm sure he will welcome a loving message. Better to act on a kind thought than not to and then regret it.

[Sqad]

^^^^ I would have guessed that ^^^^....;-)

[Rosie29]

Cheers Sqad x

[naomi24]

Why embarrassed? If you love him there's nothing wrong in telling him. The dying words spoken to me by someone I loved very much were 'I love you' - something I treasure.

[Tilly2]

Don't feel embarrassed, Sam. I'm sure he will have appreciated it.

[Hopkirk]

I bet he really liked getting that message.

Do it again soon.

[pastafreak]

Never feel embarrassed when your feelings are genuine. Think how you'd feel if you'd never said it...
I'd always found it difficult to say in my emails to my brother who is the other side of the Atlantic. But after his months battling sepsis last year, that has changed.
Drink more wine...xx

[Samuraisan]

Thanks everyone.

[pixie374]

Totally agree, you meant it and said it- and without embarrassing him too... perfectly done. I hope he is ok xx

[Canary42]

Nothing wrong with reserving such emotional declarations for when they really matter. Better that than the shallow "luv U" sign-offs now prevalent amongst the chattering classes.

[anneasquith]

Your brother will without doubt appreciate the message from his brother ,

[Barsel]

Please don't feel silly. I have a brother who I love to pieces and I know he loves me too although I don't think we actually say those three words, we show it in other ways, but, if ever I felt the time was right to tell him that, ( as in your situation) then I would. x

[Barsel]

anneasquith, Samuraisan is listed as female. x

[Samuraisan]

Annesquith, I am his sister. But yes you are all correct, I would also appreciate being told I was loved before going under the knife.

[Apc2604]

It's absolutely OK to tell someone you love them if it comes naturally and is meant. What I hate is the modern habit some people have of ending every telephone call to their partner with 'love you' automatically . It means nothing. It was a lovely thing to say to your brother and really nothing to be embarrassed about, especially as you love him.

[TheDevil]

Better to have lived and loved...

[Cloverjo]

I agree with everyone else. No reason to be embarrassed. At least you didn’t do a Jeremy Vine when he said ‘Love you’ when saying goodbye to a caller on his radio show. Now that IS embarrassing.