Confused About Spouse Asking Questions...

[GrayMustangGT]

Spouse is currently away on job but comes home on weekends. Calls mornings/evenings. Things seem great. Already visited where spouse is staying before. However planning on another trip soon and now spouse is asking all these questions of which weekend they wont be needing to make the drive back. I honestly find it odd due to the fact itll be during the week ( not a weekend when a make the trip ). The spouse is aware of this, so why would it matter and why the repeated question of which weekend of not having to make the drive back home? It makes me think theres more to this... or am I imagining things? Would like an outside opinion on this.
Thanks

[fiction-factory]

Maybe spouse thinks that it's a bit time consuming /expensive for him to make a trip when you are making the journey a few days earlier/later. Just ask him what the issue is or just plan your trip and not worry about his weekend plans

[woofgang]

don't ask us, ask spouse

[Old_Geezer]

I'm not even understanding the questions he's asked.
Why not ask him, since you don't understand either ?
Maybe you've got the wrong end of the stick.

[Khandro]

Welcome to AB. There are so many imponderables behind you question without further information. Woofgang's answer may sound flippant, but I think it contains a point, you really need to broach your worries with him & try to find out more.

[Tilly2]

Perhaps the spouse has the wrong end of the stick?

[Jordyboy9]

Maybe he has a bit on the side,
Maybe he is tired of you,
Maybe he has an old flame visit,
Maybe you should trust him.

[Tilly2]

Why are people assuming that 'the spouse' is male?

[fiction-factory]

True. Just because GrayMustangGT identifies on AB as female we shouldn't assume partner wants be identified as male. I did notice the OP used the term They

[Jordyboy9]

Doesn’t matter Tilly2,
Same answer apply whether male ,female or whatever.

[Tilly2]

I know it doesn't matter, Jordie, but it is odd not to use a pronoun instead of 'spouse'.

[AuntPollyGrey]

To clarify: Your OH works away and comes back every Friday for the weekend. You don't clarify if he drives comes by train or even flies. Soon you will be visiting him during the week but have not yet given him dates. He is asking when you are coming to see him , so he knows which weekend he will stay at workplace rather than go home.
Questions to ask your OH
Why will he not return home with you for the weekend after you visit to him during the week?
What will he do that weekend all on his own?
Questions to ask yourself:
Why can't you stay over the weekend with him?
If 'things seem great' what has triggered your thoughts he may be seeing someone.
Why do I feel I can't broach this subject with him?

[Khandro]

The poster if female, but ...

[Bobbisox1]

Just ask him, it’s as simple as that :0/

[johnny.5]

GrayMustangGT
are you even reading any of this ?

[GrayMustangGT]

Yes I've read all responses , thanks everyone. Yes I'm female. Spouse is Male. I would be traveling during mid-week by car( only 3 hr drive )and staying throughout the entire week into the weekend. Returning back home on first on the following work week. Hes aware of the upcoming trip, hes just uncertain of the exact date I'd be arriving. The thing is since I'd be staying there during the week, he'd already know in advance before weekend arrived not to make a trip home due to the fact I'd already be up there with him. That's the really odd part. Hes just been trying to get the exact date in advance from me. I've just been telling him I'm not certain just yet. Well this a.m. he seem to of made more of a big deal out of a comment I made about a time that he normally calls me and he accused me of bitching all the time. Thats certainly not true then he made a remark that maybe he just won't call me at all tomorrow and for me to enjoy rest of my day. Before he could finish, I hung up the phone. I was extremely hurt. I think whatever has sprung into him is definitely not right.

[AuntPollyGrey]

He wants to know when you're arriving? Have you thought he may be wanting to book a nice restaurant as a suprise or some other treat?

[Gromit]

If he is working then perhaps he needs to organise his working day. You just turning up at some unspecified time might be inconvenient, and hard for him to take time off to be with you.

[Bobbisox1]

GM, can you say hand on heart ,you trust him?

[woofgang]

for goodness sake, don't talk to us, talk to him....calmly and without heat.

[GrayMustangGT]

Okkkkk, I guess let me detail this more.. its construction job.. 6/10s ( days/hrs) I'm just going to stay n visit. Theres no time off except Sunday which is scheduled. We'll just be eating a quick bit due time alotted. No biggy. Hes been doing this since August 2019. It's just it gets old and tiresome the same routine of me being home constantly. Plus ya got to think how difficult that is working long hrs then making that drive every week too. But his question was very odd to say the least because it would not matter as I stated... I'd already be there during the week and therefore he'd know not to make the upcoming trip back home.. its almost like hes hiding something in advance before I arrive or letting someone know before I get there. Idk... as I said, I might be reading too much into it, but he did seemingly start an unwarranted argument too this a.m. and get an attitude too. Just VERY SUSPICIOUS! Why would ANYONE act that way?