Am I Wrong For Not Letting My Family Change My Son's Diaper?

[trishyiepie]

My son is 2 months old and I have trouble letting others see my sons private area and I do not feel comfortable with other people changing my son alone, however, I have been called selfish and entitled for not letting other people care for my son even though my family plays with him, hugs him, kisses him, holds him, feeds him, etc. I just don't want anyone to change him.

[ummmm]

Your baby, your rules.

Does this mean you won't be going out for the next 5 years or so?

[douglas9401]

Two months is a bit young to have a private area.

He really needs supervision for a while yet.

[Ringlet]

He is your baby - you can decide what you allow other people to do.
If you don't want other people changing your baby's nappy, that is your decision and no one has the right to call you "selfish".
If you feel uncomfortable with other people seeing your son naked, then you are right to prevent that from happening.

[calmck]

Not even his father

[ToraToraTora]

Gawd at first I thought you were one of those "gender Neutral" weirdo's! Anyway as Ummm says, your kid your rules, though you may have grounded yourself for a few years!

[roopower]

Do you realise, the way you are thinking, that you will be solely responsible for changing his nappies for years. What happens when you leave your son with anyone, or don't you go out? You are making a bit of a rod for your own back. If his father is in the picture or your mother/ mother in law, are they excluded too?

[davebro]

It seems that you don't want to trust your family to behave appropriately to your new baby. If you have reasons for this maybe you are right, if not then I think you are overcautious.

[trishyiepie]

@Calmck He's running around. He has 2 other BM excluding me and he rarely comes to see his son at all. I tried to give him chances but he does the same thing. So I guess not.

[trishyiepie]

@ummmm Yes I will, however, if I do go anywhere I am brining him with me. I might have to get over this in case he would want to go with his grandma or uncles or aunts I'm just having a hard time doing so

[Captain2]

Probably me being behind the times, but what does the 'BM' stand for in 'He has 2 other BM excluding me...'?

[Mamyalynne]

Is there anything actually worrying you about this or is it simply the way you are?

Nothing wrong in the way you are feeling but it would be great if you could relax a little and let close family that you really trust to help you.

[trishyiepie]

@douglas9401 How so?

[trishyiepie]

@davebro I may be overcautious because I don't necessarily have a reason I just have a really bad feeling with leaving any adult changing my son in a room alone

[Bobbisox1]

trishyiepie, you don’t need to answer if you don’t want to and I’d understand but were you in anyway abused as a child? And could that be the reason you’re fearful for your baby?

[trishyiepie]

@roopower I know this will be my responsibility, I've been doing this by myself for 2 whole months now and if I go out I will most likely take him with me. The father is in and out of the picture and I wouldn't mind my mom changing him but I worry of anyone else

[Neveracrossword]

Captain, I think BM might be Baby Mamas/Baby Mothers - ie he has children by/with other women.

[Captain2]

Thanks NaC, that's what I presumed, unfortunately. Poor girls and babies.

[Peter Pedant]

your baby your rules

[trishyiepie]

@Captain2 BM stands for baby mama

[trishyiepie]

Bobbisox1
I was in fact assaulted as a little girl. I told someone else I was just over cautious however as you mention it, that may be a reason for me being over cautious towards anyone with my child