What Is Wrong With This Person?

[Jack8991]

Where to start....basically they can start an argument with their husband (regularly) from out of nowhere, then be very verbally nasty and aggressive in the argument, then later on, start crying and making out as they’re the victim and being abused. It’s like they genuinely believe that they are the victim. Also, they just have strange ways about them, for example, they have tea at roughly 7pm and it takes them until turned 10pm to finish the dishes and wipe round, just scrubbing at everything. She also has an obsession with germs and is always detox wiping everything (I understand to a point because of Covid but it’s still OTT). Back in 2014, she saw three ants on the kitchen floor and from that moment up until about 2019 she refused to cook in the kitchen and just ate out every night. Just a wide range of odd behaviours like this. If you was to meet her you would think she was a completely normal educated person, but behind closed doors behaves like this. It can’t be normal in my opinion. Thanks

[Sqad]

What Is Wrong With This Person?

My first reaction is.....is there ANYTHING wrong with this person?

Seems a bit OTT at times, but not something that I would call abnormal.

But AB Psychiatrists will sort you out.

Eating out every night for 5 years, they must be wealthy.

[Atheist]

jack8991;
Your question makes me suspect that the woman is your partner, and you're looking for sympathy and understanding from ABers, based on your side of the story.
Is that correct?

[Mamyalynne]

His Mother it seems.

[pastafreak]

Not likely Atheist. Jack is a young man, 23 years old if I'm not mistaken...I'm guessing it's his mum.

[LadyCG]

Atheist, the poster lives with his parents. The woman he refers to is in all probability his mother.

I think these behaviours are manifestations of chronic anxiety. CBT may be helpful in this regard but she has first to accept that she has a problem. That's the most difficult part.

Disclaimer: I am not an AB Psychiatrist.

[Atheist]

Pasta, (and Mamy) we don't know the characters in this drama; that's why I asked the OP to clarify.

[Jack8991]

For those saying I’m not being empathetic and questioning her ‘nasty’ behaviour. So like I mentioned in the first part of the post about the way she speaks to my dad, do you not think that’s nasty? She constantly is calling him horrible names and in arguments with him she will tell him to ‘go and die’

[Atheist]

I was a bit puzzled about this "Also, they just have strange ways about them, for example, they have tea at roughly 7pm and it takes them until turned 10pm to finish the dishes and wipe round, just scrubbing at everything."
Does the poster not help with the dish-washing?
If the poster is worried about his mum (rather than his partner), then I'm not sure what to say, other than that she may need sympathy and help.

[Sqad]

Mrs sqad thinks that my post is as "nutty" as the woman is. lol

[Jack8991]

Atheist- are you for real? Nobody I know spends that long doing the washing up in the kitchen. My grandparents certainly don’t when I go to their house and they say it’s ridiculous taking that long

[jackthehat]

You need to keep your nose out of your parents marriage. Whatever goes on between them is their business and will be a story that started before you were born.
You need to *help* your Mum and not criticise which I suspect is all that you really do. Are the grandparents her parents, or your dad's?

[Atheist]

jack8991; you didn't explain the situation clearly. I shouldn't even try to get involved in your family life. Forgive me, and good luck.

[Jack8991]

Jack the hat- they are her parents. You don’t have a clue about the situation so just stop talking

[douglas9401]

I feel her pain. We had three aunts round for dinner recently, nightmare.

[cashier]

It can't be easy having acondescending, patronising son like you. Someone who has no respect for hiscparents and posts about them on open forums, asking for advice and when he gets it tells people to stop talking. You should move out if it bothers you that much.

[Jack8991]

Are people not reading how she treats my dad? Then you’re all saying I’m being horrible to her. Why do you think she is the innocent one?

[cashier]

You mum may be going through the menopause.

[jackthehat]

I have a sneaking suspicion that having an ungrateful and petulant son may be adding to your Mum's burdens.

[Jack8991]

Cashier- yes she is, but she’s been like this for many years. My grandparents say that she used to spend 3-4 hours washing my bottles as a baby. The health worker at the time was saying it is abnormal to do that