My Husband’s Female Friend Keeps Provoking Me, Comments On Aspects Trying To Make Me Feel Insecure And Says Mean Things Sarcastically, What Does This Mean?

[Lig12345]

She uses humor to communicate her comments, which makes me want to reply back to her, not sure how to deal with this anymore and how to stop thibkibg about it, noting that she doesn’t have anything significant with her looks or career or anything, she always wants to show that she is the one with the good taste and all. The only thing I feel insecure about myself is that I weigh more than her specially now after pregnancy. How to deal with her, how to stop thinking about what she is doing and let it go?

[jno]

think about something else? If you've just had a baby you should have plenty on your mind. You might also express your displeasure to your husband.

[bednobs]

im not all that clear on what she IS doing.#what is "commenting on aspects"?

[Lig12345]

To clarify “comments on aspects to try to make me feel insecure”:

She makes comments that aims to draw my attention but in a mean way

[Zacs-Master]

Jealousy. It’s a terrible motivator.

[Lig12345]

I did tell my husband, he defended her many times by saying that is part of her personality and that she is joking

But recently I opened the subject again and he listened, even commented on one of the incidents that happened recently

[Zacs-Master]

You need to be more specific

[Lig12345]

Like every time she comes over, she comments about what i am dressing my baby: like why did you dress him like this, he is hot and sweaty. Which is not true

Or for example she keeps telling us that our baby takes his hair color from his dad whereas he has identical hair to mine, and you won’t be able to miss this. I know thise are silly aspects… but she keeps doing this allll the time which makes me wonder why

Or the other day, she came over with her husband and i was wearing a dress, then i changed into another outfit since it was getting warm

When i came back, she looked at me and said, now this is the lig we know, you wearing dresses and all is not you

Until today i don’t understand her comment

[Zacs-Master]

Do you watch the Kardashians?

[Lig12345]

No i don’t watch the Kardashians

[Zacs-Master]

Mmm.

[smurfchops]

I don’t like the sound of “my husband’s female friend” or maybe it’s just my mind …