Boyfriend Goes And Visits His Ex In Psychiatric Ward

[Legs4040]

My boyfriend constantly goes to see his ex wife in a psychiatric hospital who is in there for life every time he goes and visits her it’s like he DOSENT love me he knows it upsets me. It’s like he DOSENT love me. Only reason he is with me is he can’t be with her. He keeps saying no that it’s in my head but it’s not

[wolf63]

I can't say if he loves you or not, but turn the situation around.

What if it was you that was in a psychiatric hospital with no hope of getting out. Would you not appreciate visits from someone who was once an important part of your life.

If you want to stay with your boyfriend you are going to accept that this is part of his baggage.

[Old_Geezer]

IMO it if you that has an issue that you need to deal with, rather than your boyfriend. You have assumed reasons for his behaviour that you opt to believe but offer no evidence that it is the reality.

I think wolf put it rather well.

Maybe try to apply a more compassionate interpretation of what is going on and you may not feel as mistreated as you are presently choosing to.

If you can remain calm then by all means tell your boyfriend your fears so he can put his side of what is happening, but don't do so in an accusive manner but as a genuine discussion on how you feel and how you can be assured.

[bhg481]

wolf and O_G have summed it up nicely. Just think yourself lucky that such a caring man has allowed you into his life. Hang on to this man like grim death.

[Prudie]

Who says she's in there for life?

[lankeela]

If he 'dosent' love you why is it you he comes home to? If she is in there for life then she is no threat to you is she? (Emotionally I mean, as I have no idea why she is in there.)

[chanel5]

You are jealous of a woman who is unable to be any threat to you at all.
If you continue to harass your boyfriend about visiting his ex wife he will soon grow tired of you and it will be your own fault when you lose him.
Try to show some compassion and understanding, both to your boyfriend and to his ex wife. He will love you all the more for it.