Should I Leave This Relationship?

[Jasmine11]

Hi everyone, I'm very confused and in complicated situation right now. Actually, the thing is I'm in relationship with a guy for 1.5 yrs. After 5 months of our relationship i caught him texting like 'Hi cutie', 'hi beautiful'..etc to 4/5 girls that seemed flirty. I was very hurt as i never expected him to do such thing. I felt he was giving attention to other girls despite being in a relnship. I cried but he didn't even say sorry to me . He said he was just being friendly to the girls as it sounds rude to say just hi. He said the girls were his friends. He argued that he did nothing wrong and still he says he did nothing wrong. But i was not convinced with his answers. He never gave me compliments but found time to text his female friends 'hi beautiful'. He even said that he will be okay with/without me. Can someone in love tell you such thing out of anger??

That happened a year ago but i couldn't move on from his actions I was never convinced from his answers .I always felt something is wrong, spend most of the time overthinking, always scared about our future that how will he treat me in future I never found him comforting me, providing emotional support when i needed. I could rarely get ' I luv u' texts from him.. But , he has supported me in my studies(like gathering study resources n materials) and always paid whenever we are out on a date. He just recently told me that 'I love him more than he does' and also confessed that he was emotionally less invested in the beginning. But I don't find him too attached to me (like his emotions are on the surface level for me). I feel like he loves me half heartedly. His words also gives me the same meaning that he isn't much invested into me. His most suspicious behavior is he used to and still gets scared when i ask for his mobile to see pictures. I get direct 'no' whenever i asked him for his phone. Sometimes, I used to ask for his phone to see his reaction . But he always got nervous and scared like he is cheating. I also confronted him that why does he do so and as an answer he said that you will find something. Ufff, I don't know if i'm overthinking, overreacting, over analysing i don't know whats going on but i somewhat don't trust him becoz of his those actions. Even after all these things he doesn't leave me. He promises to marry me and never leave me. I dont know what's in his heart as he never expresses himself, he never shares. I don't know if i'm stupid or not able to understand him but i'm scared about our future that will he be able to fulfill his promise? will he not cheat me? will he provide me emotional support? I don't know what to do guys plz suggest me sth. I can't stop thinking. Plz help

[wolf63]

If you can't trust him there is no future for your relationship.

[Peter Pedant]

so you ask some broken doown old crocks on AB who still think of a telephone as a handset and dial

leave him

[Peter Pedant]

and are surprised that televisions dont have to warm up nowadays

[Old_Geezer]

They do. Switch on any modern one and they takes ages to come on. Has to be to do with the integrated valves warming up.

[FreyaBee]

I am old enough to be your grandmother, but deffo not a broken down old crock. Does he live with you or are you in separate abodes? Tell him you need some space on your own for a while and see how he reacts. He doesn't sound serious about your relationship.

[Old_Geezer]

A rather long first post, I didn't finish it.

He may or may not be ok re texting others, but as it upsets you, one would have thought there would have been some form of compromise agreed from that discussion.

However as he admits to not being overly committed then you should be seriously considering whether you have a future with him.

I'm not going to tell you what to do because many fail to distinguish between orders and advice, but you should ask yourself if the relationship makes you happy, and will continue to do so in the future, before making any decision.

[Peter Pedant]

A rather long first post, I didn't finish it.
yes Brevity is the soul of wit and
that is why TTT quips "frack!" so often