Is It Normal For My Mum To Be Concerned?

[abbeylee90]

I just told my mum I got a lift with that mam from dogs home to get my covid jab she said be careful with that man he might think you like him one I was on about from dogs home. He took me for dinner afterwards.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, I'm delighted you're going to try to get your life back on track next year. I think the major stumbling block has been you lurching from one not-great job to another. Those didn't work out and you also chose not to share any of that with your friends or your mum - I'm sure this must have dragged you down at times. You obviously weren't thinking clearly at any of the points where you were considering going out with the old guy and his pal or the old guy and a team of pals. 

[Floko]

Abbey,looking back at your comments,it seems the man is hanging around where you live on the off- chance he "sees you walking" so that he can offer to give you a lift. This could happen any day of the week, not just dog-walking day.  As you live in a cul de sac, does he hang around near your house or does he look for you in the main road ?

[abbeylee90]

Floko looks for me on main road and he said he don't normally go my way. When I said I don't want to grow old and lonely like him he kind of made a comment.

[Canary42]

He's a stalker. That's illegal.

[abbeylee90]

Well he don't do it everyday as he knows I'm in work.

[Floko]

Canary is right.

I give up commenting on this thread now

[abbeylee90]

Well yes easy to avoid lifts home just not there 

[newmodarmy]

"When I said I don't want to grow old and lonely like him he kind of made a comment."

It doesn't sound a very nice thing to have said, but maybe it gave the wrong message- maybe he thought you must be desperate to get a partner so would consider anyone, including him, rather than risk being alone for ever.

[abbeylee90]

Well no it's to late for him now 

[abbeylee90]

Well he said once am I not wanting to do things with him due to not having money as I waiting to be paid 

[abbeylee90]

Suppose I'm glad I told my mum now 

[Redhelen72]

2009 that's rude and mean!! My dad remarried at 60 and had a lovely life bringing up his stepchildren 

[abbeylee90]

I mean to have his own children and I'm 30

[Karamia]

A man in his 60s or older can easily still start a family. He only needs to meet a lady in her 30s/40s.

It's not same for woman. Only have a certain amount of years before having children becomes out of reach 

I had my first of 2 babies at 30 and that was called a geriatric pregnancy by my doctor!!! 

[Karamia]

It sounds like you have told this older guy from dog walking quite a bit about yourself and about wanting to meet a guy your own age. I hope you are being careful about anyone you talk to on Facebook or tinder who could have set up a fake account in order to chat with you. I'm not saying this guy has done this, but from his stalking behaviour and following you to give you lift, it could easily be possible for him to set up fake profiles to catfish you, or make you think you talking to a younger guy. He only needs to screenshot someone else's photos. Please just be careful who you are chatting with on Facebook or on dating sites. You would be better off on Plenty of Fish - as you can set a small distance of 10 miles from where you live and also set it to show you looking for a relationship rather than just a hook up for sex which is what a lot on tinder might want.

[abbeylee90]

Of course I am careful I've had my on and off thoughts about him hanging out outside dogs home wise bit now I think it going to be for good that I don't have anything to do with him other than that now.

I don't blame this one particularly as to why he hated him.

[abbeylee90]

He might not be coming back to the dogs home we will see 

[Redhelen72]

you have had your thoughts about him for a while but consider it acceptable to go for dinner with him?

Do you think that is OK or fair?

[abbeylee90]

Because on previous posts people said I was being harsh and I might like the daughter he never had.

Wasnt until my mum said be careful with him I've not been out with him since