Dont Know What To Think Anymore

[JinnyJoan]

Had that crash in August 26th I believe.  I have had 5 wonderful friends died in the last 5 years but the friends I have had have not come up with the "goods".

Ie not worried, not visited in the home - you know all the things should have happened in being concerned about you.

 

I am now very disappointed in the above that I did have a good lot of them in my will but now I think I will remove them.  

I am also very hurt as well as disappointed.  If the same were to happen to them I would have been there for them.

 

Sick to death of it all.  

[barry1010]

Have you kept in contact with them? Do they know you are feeling so low?

[JinnyJoan]

I am in contact Barry but they sort of know I have been unwell and low for some time now.

 

I had two siblings who always arrived at the house with birthday cards 13 November - this time both posted them with a big POSTAGE STAMP - first time for them ever.  they have always arrived in body for over 50 years

[anneasquith]

Jj. We all get disappointed at times in our life. You are not the only one. True friends and family love you , in today's climate everyone appears to be so busy . How is Maxie ?

[Old_Geezer]

Best not decide anything rashly, wait until things improve and see if you still want to do the same.

 

Hope your state of mind improves for you soon.

[jourdain2]

annea. probably provides the answer. Time pressure these days.

I have  not seen my granddaughter (18) this year.  She lives 44 miles away, has passed her driving test  and has a car.  Most of the year she was studying for A levels & driving test and also had a Saturday job at Boots, which spread to include general cover. 

Whee! She got the grades  to read Eng.Lit. at Warwick - still worked at the local Boots (transferable employment).  Now she is home for Christmas and we were booked for a family meal on Christmas Eve - local Boots have other ideas.  She sees us or loses her job. She needs the cash.  So she and her mum will pay a flying visit next  week instead formince  pies andmulled wine.  To say I am gutted is  about right - but I am  so pleased to see her even for an hour that the disappointment has to be pushed away.

I think you have to do the  same, sadly. The world has changed and we are on the losing side.

 

 

 

[Barsel]

JJ have I got this right?

If your friends and family don't come to visit you, you will take them out of your will?

[jno]

first time in 50 years - after half a century maybe there's a reason for that. Are you sure they're in good enough health to travel themselves?

[JinnyJoan]

one's is 60 and the other is 39 and I reared basically the 39 year old as 60 year had no partner at the time and also another son.

 

[JinnyJoan]

just feel nothing is nothing any more - no compassion etc etc.  do think this social media has played a big part as the friends do communicate with their friends via text - and I don't do text.  

[JinnyJoan]

barsel   - no to that unfortunately 

 

//if your friends and family don't come to visit you, you will take them out of your will?//

 

well that's to say if they don't visit you after all these at your home - I wont' expect them to visit me in the "care home" - would you?

[barry1010]

Have you visited your friends lately, JJ?  Invited them over?

[JinnyJoan]

no but I will tell you this - when I have died and I have arranged a venue for them.

 

They'll go "ach jennyjoan was lovely wasn't she"  - very witty and funny, and very kind to all she knew.  She loved everybody particularly her mother and father and God love her - now she is below or heavey and with her she everybody loves   -  what a farce   LOL

[Barsel]

JJ, you don't know you will be going in a care home so don't worry about something you don't know of for sure.

I've noticed how times have changed and my family as it is now, is nothing like the family I had growing up.

I'm the same as you where social media has taken over peoples lives and I don't do What's app or twitter etc and people are busy busy busy and don't have time to talk on the phone, and never have time to come and visit.

There's probably not a lot we can do to change it and I'm afraid we just have to make the best of it. Please know though, you are not on your own when it comes to this.

[JinnyJoan]

I know I'm on my own Barsel - so I am going to separate myself from everyone I know.  GOOD BYE EVERYBODY   loL  - NO SORRY NOT ON HERE BUT IN REAL LIFE  -   I 'm sorry there will be nobody will get a cuppla shillings I have left but that's ok

[barry1010]

A few times I've had friends telling me off because I haven't visited.

I always tell them they live just as close to me as I do to them.

[Barsel]

JJ it's quite obvious to me that you are suffering from depression.

I could advise you, but I don't know what facilities you have near to where you live. That is what you need though, the company of other people getting out more, joining daytime clubs or the library, but as I said, I don't know what you have available to you where you live.

 

 

[Redhelen72]

Jenny you sound depressed! You should seek help from the community health nurse.

for years you have told us on here that you like your own company, that you hate your birthday and Christmas and I wouldn't be surprised if you have let that be known in reality, so perhaps your relatives have finally paid heed.

people have so much to do in their own lives that if there is a relative saying I'm ok leave me alone it's one less thing to worry about 

[JinnyJoan]

Red Helen - well you may have some true words as I seem to go into a depression around November/December - ie birthday and Christmas.  I receive so many unnecessary presents and I don't need it - I truly want the money to go to necessary charities.

It makes me unhappy wandering some shops like yesterday looking for "tit and tat" buying the same bloody thing year after year.

Is this awful saying - if we are still living next year - if even though I have my own money - you know I would like to receive money as presents so that I can do what at will I can do.  Apart from charities/homeless I saw a lovely cheap ring yesterday (of which many I have) but it was cheap but it stood out and the little prisms stood out but I didn't want to waste any more of MY money but a little present of money would buy it.  Thanks for listenings. 

[ladybirder]

jj how is your little Maxie doing?

[Redhelen72]

Jenny, you don't want presents but you do want money from your relatives?

Have you told them?

Personally I hate giving money as gifts  to my older relatives its smacks as a cop out - I would rather trawl the shops and get them something