How Do I Tell This Guy About My Condition

[abbeylee90]

As I've said I've jad seizures in the past and I'm abit weary telling this guy. He has asked me if I want to stay at his soon.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, what is that you're asking? Is it wrong that you're watching what he does, keeping track of him on POF - or are you wondering if it's wrong that he still goes on POF even though he's had two dates with you? 

[abbeylee90]

As people said I shouldn't need to go on there after two dates. But not sure if after 2 dates it to soon to stay at his 

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, some people may have said you don't 'need' to go on POF after two dates, but there are no hard and fast rules! It definitely all seems quite casual, in a way - you didn't want to see off Bearded Guy until you saw how your new date went. Some people would have probably found that ... a bit rude, unfair.  I think you (everyone) chooses the rules, the way to behave, that suits their own situation.

[abbeylee90]

Well the other guy date went better we've kissed and have a laugh. Beard guy we've never kissed and just has personality I think so who would you say I connect better with?

[Barsel]

Are you really unable to tell who you get on better with?

[Karamia]

Perhaps he wants to have a few dates with a few different people and see if there is a better option for him out there.

He must be able to see that you are also active on pof, if you can see that he is.

[naomi24]

Abbey, for what it's worth I think it's too soon.  Get to know him more.

[Karamia]

Hypothetically, if this new guy turned out to be married and was still with wife, but didn't want to tell you the truth because he didn't want to upset you, I guess that would have to be acceptable to you, as this is the way you run your life. 

If he wanted to try things out with you for a while first to see if it worked out before telling you truth and before getting a divorce, then that would be OK too.

Just trying to demonstrate how your mind seems to work with not telling mum or friends the truth, incase you upset her or incase it doesn't work out. But if friends hear about truth from others they may not trust you and believe you have lied to them.

Try being more open and honest and you might be surprised with how much less stress it is.

[abbeylee90]

I do know who I get on better with one I went on a date with other day.

I said to him when he asked maybe in few weeks.

My friends haven't asked am I speaking to anyone.

[abbeylee90]

Karamia yes he can if he checks.

[scorpiojo]

Are you still talking to other men on PoF?

[abbeylee90]

No

[newmodarmy]

After two short dates he's already asking you about staying overnight at his place? Maybe he's one of the not insignificant  number on POF who are seeking sex rather than a long term partner whereas you're looking for a man to settle down with...or are you happy with just a physical relationship with no ties. Would you regret spending the night with him if you then found out he was already married or just liked sleeping around?

[abbeylee90]

He's not already married 

[newmodarmy]

Maybe he is but doesn't want to say in case you judge him. It works both ways 

[abbeylee90]

It says single on his fb page

[newmodarmy]

Does your Facebook page show where you work?

[newmodarmy]

Anyway....you're right to wait at least a few weeks before deciding whether you're ready.

[Karamia]

I hope you never get a spam phone call, if you believe that everyone tells the truth about everything!

[abbeylee90]

It does if you put it on there.

Why would people find out by calling me?