What Does This Guy Mean By He Always Bottom Of My List?

[abbeylee90]

This guy I've spoken about I know from dogs home. I said work comes at top of my list and he said 'you finish at two and then have the weekend off ! When he all of a sudden brought up we hadn't been out for ages. Very little does he know about selco. What is he trying to get out of this?

[Smowball]

You seem to have a lot of situations going on with a lot of different men.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, what the old guy means is exactly the same as he meant last year. He's trying to guilt you into having more to do with him. And while you're still communicating with him, you're not being honest enough to tell him to leave you in peace!

[newmodarmy]

I don't see why it's awkward blocking him. Yes, you sometimes see him at the dogs home but you should make sure you only chat about the dogs or the weather or sport or the economy or Gaza/Ukraine- close down any chat about meeting up outside the dogs home. You should still block him- there;s no reason why you need him to be able to contact/pester you.

Block him now. 

[DDIL]

I thought he had left the dogs home in a fit of pique?

[smurfchops]

It means you are bottom of his list.  It means he thinks you don't care about him.  How about working at a different dogs home?  You seem to have a lot of problems with the men there.  Leave.

[Clementino]

If you find it so awkward to block, then...ignore his messages. The next  time he is at the dogs's home and speaks to you about why he is not getting any attention tell him that you prefer to spend your free time  with friends  in your own age group ?

 

 

 

 

[abbeylee90]

He did leave dogs home he reckons he just goes down to give dogs treats on a Wednesday.

There's no other dogs home this one is local.

[DDIL]

Am I missing something?

If he only goes down on a wednesday, you block him, you don't go on a wednesday and you stop accepting his gifts and invitations.

looking back on your posts you had told everyone that you no longer had anything to do with him, but that doesn't appear to be so.

[SparklyKid]

abbey, you really do need to get a life away from here.

[abbeylee90]

I didn't he didn't contact me for abit 

[newmodarmy]

He has now again so block him.  Simple.

[abbeylee90]

Since Sunday 

[naomi24]

DDIL, you don't seem to be missing much.

 

abbey, he means what he says.  He feels he's always bottom of your list because you blow hot and cold with him.  If you don't want to see him tell him - and tell him not to contact you again.  

[DDIL]

Its called research Naomi, you can't answer a question fully if you don't research the subject.

[Prudie]

Honestly!! This is the 'old' guy in his 60s who you let ply you with lunch and gifts, led him on and then came on here and absolutely slagged him off, got support by ABers calling him a creep and a threat (when they don't even know him) and you wonder why he thinks he's bottom of your list - and still you get support. Poor man.

[naomi24]

abbey, do you like the attention he gives you?  

[ynnafymmi]

@12.56.Yes,abbey really needs to address the issues in her life,if it isnt her"boyfriends",it is her parents who dont"understand"her,if not it is her"employers"who dont want to tolerate her"issues".Better ABers than abbeylee have been banned from AB for a lot less.Sorry for my rant.

[abbeylee90]

Yn that don't makes sense.

Naomi. Off him no

Prudie he knows nothing about this.

Because I won't go out with his mates or to the zoo with him.

[naomi24]

Ynna, get real.  No one has been banned from AB for asking advice about their personal lives - unless in the process they've posted something unacceptably unsavoury.  It's been said many times but it clearly needs to be repeated.  If you don't like abbey's threads, avoid them.  It's not difficult.

[naomi24]

Abbey, well if you don't enjoy the attention, tell him and then avoid him - and block him from your contacts.