how do i tell my mum whats happened?

[xxlizziexx]

ive been bullied for about 8 months now, and the school found out n its getting sorted, well kinda. the school are trying there best but sometimes its just not working, but anyway - my mum knows about it all and i am surposed to tell her everything that happens beacuse its really important that we keep an eye on it, my mum has been away for the last week and is coming home to nite, and quitee a few serious things have happened which i need to tell her about, but i dont no how, i mean shes just coming off holiday and i dont want to ruin her mood beacuse i know that it really upsets her that i get builled. so i dont know when and how to tell her beacuse i dont want ot ruin her happyines from holiday, understand? should i tell her tomro nite? or wait till the sat or sun? shall i just say it to her or write it down?
sorry its long thaanx for any answers x x

[kate1976]

First off, lots of hugs to you!

Your mum sounds like an understanding, caring person so I think telling her straight away will be best, of course it's an upsetting business but I reckon she'd be more upset if you kept it from her for a day or two!

If you feel you can talk to her then go ahead and spill your feelings but a letter can work just as well if you feel you can't talk about it!

I understand completely that you don't want to ruin her holiday happiness but the sooner she knows, the better!

I hope the bullying ceases soon and stay strong!
xxx

[electricblue]

Well sweetheart your mum needs to know she cares about you and i would want my kids to tell me and yeah if its easier then write it down.Kate1976 is right your mum will be more upset if you wait until you tell her, Bullying is not cool,it sucks!

[Chrissielou]

Lizzie - stay strong, you are not alone. As you read this, there will be many other students/adults (yes, it happens!) suffering just like you, dreading getting up for school/work tomorrow - all because there are some truly nasty people out there who thrive on making life a misery for others.

You need your mum right now, and you need to be open and honest and make sure you have her undivided attention. Perhaps writing it down isn't such a bad idea..you could do this before she gets back. You don't have to give it to her, but it's there if needed. What is most important is that she is there to listen and give you a big hug..and hey, she might even bring a souveneir back to cheer you up!

In ten years time, remember this: What goes around comes around. And believe me it's true!

[spainlads]

And don't forget that if you want to talk to someone who's not involve, then you can always give 'childline' a ring, and they're not just there for the 'smaller' child. They'll listen to you and give you some help too. It's a free call and they're there 24 hrs a day

0800 1111

http://www.childline.org.uk/

[rosyrussell]

if my daughter has problems I am much happier when she shares her feelings with me, good or bad. It makes me feel closer to her and stengthens the bond between us. By all means write it down, and let your mum read it if you find it easier, and you can then talk about the problems that arise from the letter. Don't be afraid to share things with your parents - we are generally a lot tougher than we look! Good luck sweetheart, and one day you will look back on the troubles you have had recently and dismiss them from your life.

[PhilBy]

If your mum asks you if all is well at school then perhaps that may be the best time to tell her?

I have found this website which may help you. You keep your chin up. I can still remember how hard it is to sometimes talk to grown ups about problems but please believe me it is always the best thing to do :-)

I have found this website that you and your mum can have a look at, click on the link below and I hope things work out well for you really soon.

http://www.bullying.co.uk/

Phil.

[snook]

Tell your mum, Lizzie, and the sooner the better. I'm sure she'd want to know. Take care, and don't let those clowns get you down, they're only doing it 'cos they don't know any better and they're a bit thick.

[spaced]

poor lizzie. Listen, whether your mum has just come back from holidays or work, she would much prefer to know what has happened rather than you keeping it a secret. Talk to your mum and also keep talking to your school, tell them your probs and how you feel. And dont worry about the bullies, at the end of the day they are cowards and have ntohing better to do than to bully innocent people, who they are probably jealous of.

hope all goes well.

[vespaboy]

Lizzie

As you will be able to tell from the response you have had already you have a lot of support so try not to let the bully(s) get you down too much.

Please tell your mum about what's been going on as soon as you can your mum will not be upset at you I can assure you of that, however, she may feel somewhat sadder if you leave it as not to upset her because of her holiday.

Remember us adults are here to help you children (and vice-versa) at all times.

Good luck and I hope it all ends soon for you. (if you were my child I'd give you a big hug)

[Englishbird]

Hi lizzie, well, everyone's said it all really! But just wanted to add my voice. It's very sweet of you to be worried about your mum's feelings, and it just goes to show what a thoughtful person you are, something that others will appreciate in you over the years. But on this occassion it's your mum's turn to look after you (which she sounds like she's doing) There may be times in the future where she needs your help, but right now she needs you to let her help you. That's what mum's are for!

Whilst it's much easier said than done, the people bullying you are total losers! try not to let them get you down too much. That which does not kill us, can only make us stronger. And sooner or later you'll be away from them and I can promise you that they will never find happiness in their lives if they're so sad as to hurt others.

You sound like you've got a good family and at least the school are listening. Good luck chick, and keep your chin up x x

[holden]

You must tell your MUM as soon as possible. You wont upset her. Any good MUM will understand. So dont wait.

[rugeleyboy]

lizzie, i think everyone has said what to do for the best.

i just hope you keep strong and as a few others have said, the bullies are the weak ones.

i hope everything works out for you!!

god bless

[I_love_Ken]

Well Lizzie, haven't had chance to come on here, but just don't worry about it, I was in the same boat as you at one time, in fact, a few weeks ago. I was being bullied about my medical condition,by students, and also by a teacher who loved to embarass me as I was coming through from the library. They all got their commupence, it's Karma, it'll happen to them soon enough that have been picking on you.
It always does, evil things happen to evil doers, remember that. And I hope you told your mum about it, you feel like you're not the only one anymore, a weight has been lifted.
Also, if you can get others that have been bullied by the perpetrators to stick up with you, it's an added bonus, believe me, don't be worried about spoiling your mum's happiness, after all, what paent would be happy if their child wasn't!!
Good luck if you haven't already told her, oh and buy a packet of Wine Gums, they really cheer me up, might work, you never know, when I was bullied about the choir I was in, I bought a pack of Wine Gums, and then showed them who was boss by winning a major competition!
AND, remember the famous line from Fighting Temptations "You can rub on me like sandpaper all you want, but I'll end up coming out soft and shiny, and you'll be the one that's all won out"