Why am I so tearful??

[kazzianne]

Please no sillly answers guys.

Ive have been in tears on and off since yesterday afternoon.The slightest thing is setting me off.Last night I was crying my eyes out sitting in the garden,and this morning just washing up I was biting my lip not to cry, but Ive had a little weep since.Why on earth am I like this?

[bellasasha]

awww kazz, i'm the same, the slightest thing sets me off too, i was in tears most of last night!! have no idea why

i know the usual answer will be hormones but it doesnt help much

try and keep yourself busy honey and i hope u have a better day today.

sorry i couldnt help you

xxx

[VINNY100_2]

Dont worry Kazzianne,We all go through periods when we feel like this...nothing wrong in having a little cry now and again.

[gleaveyweave]

Poor you Kazzi, I have times where i'm exactly the same and I think it's purely down to hormones. I guess that we girls just have times when our hormones go out of whack and give us these moments (or days!) of feeling really sad with no apparent reason. Not a lot you can do except surround yourself with things (or people) that make you happy and wait for it to pass. Hope you feel brighter soon x

[kazzianne]

Its not that time of the month so its not that,but Im such a cheery person normally - nothing gets me down.My friends joke that im so bright all the time.But not at the mo.I know ive got a lot on my plate at the moment - maybe im not coping as well as i thought.

[Amara]

Hey Kazzianne - Having read your posts over the last few days - it would seem you have quite a lot of stuff going on in your life at the moment? Don't be hard on yourself, crying is a good way to release pent up emotion. Unfortunately we have the added bonus of hormones, just to really get things going!! It is also worse around the time of the full moon, which is waning now so things should improve as the week goes on. - Sending you bright angel blessings - Amara xx

[jno]

if it's not hormonal, then it must be something that's making you feel sad - maybe not an individual thing but just a lot of things piling up that are making you feel out of control of your life. Maybe if you have half an hour you could try writing them down, which might help bring them out of your subconscious into the light of day, where you can have a good look at them and prioritise them. (Perhaps you've been deliberately pushing them into the back of your mind so you can get on with your work? We all have to do that sometimes, but they tend to fester a bit there.)

[sense4all]

If you need to cry just do it. I am sure that hormones do play a big part in this ( sometimes they just overwhelm you) . Let it all out - as and when - or you will just have a bigger "crash" in the end. If you are going through a lot - summats got to give. Have a blub!!! We all understand.

[kazzianne]

Now im crying coz ur all being so nice!

I guess I have a lot on at the moment - my b/f is going thru a very messy situation with his ex over money and his child.My ex is a huge problem at the mo.I have been loaded down with more work than I can handle at the mo,including things I shouldnt be doing,but as b/f is my boss its hard to tell him I cant tell him no as he is overworked too.Im trying to run a home as well,look after my 6 yr old,plus my other 2 and b/f's child at weekends.Im at my desk now (i work from home) and I have to ring Australia,USA,call bout 20 clients,and still try and do 2 new projects.And have house tidy and a meal on table later.Its too much

[Amara]

How old are your kids? Can you not pay them a bit of pocket money to tidy for you? Get a takeaway later? And just focus for now on your work? - The other stuff will work itseslf out in it's own time. We have a tendency to get overloaded and weighed down, and relatively trivial things start to build up into one big horrible mess. Your switch just blew, now take a deep breath and prioritise one by one. Love and light - Amara xx

[asteroid99]

Hi kazzianne, I know exactly how you feel - I'm the same. I'm buying a house, my fella has just got the sack from his job and his ex is planning to move to australia with his daughter. So theres loads going on but I don't feel stressed about anything specifically however I get days where I just want to cry and cry and cry for no apparent reason.

[sense4all]

Buy back a bit of sanity get a cleaner in for a month or two.

Solicitors 100 quid an hour.

Therapy 50 quid an hour.

Cleaner bargain!!!!!

You are not copping out - you'd be copping on!

Does it really matter to you if you are not the person wiping the worksurface? Look after yourself too ! Lots of love, Sense.

Ps. You have my sympathy - I used to laugh a tragic films, now a bog roll ad can set me off! lol

[horselady]

Take care of yourself. I started like that, crying for no reason late last year and put it down to feeling a bit low. In January I ended up signed off work with full blown depression. Doctor said it would have been better if I hadn't tried to pretend everything was all right and just admited something was wrong it wouldn't have hit me so hard. We push ourselves too much sometimes and something's gotta give!!

[Champagne]

Hi Kazzi. I have to say that I�m usually hyper-emotional at that time of the month. If I get emotional at any other time then I usually have to sit down and think about what problems I have that I haven�t confronted. I�m prone to �parking� minor problems until they start to niggle at me way down deep in the depths of my twisted mind!! If it gets to a point where I�m crying over �nothing� then it�s usually because I�ve parked an issue for far too long. I hope you feel better soon, hun. x

[jno]

good grief, who wouldn't cry at that list kazzianne? Yes, get a takeaway, get a cleaner; these are burdens that you can shed relatively cheaply. And perhaps you need to ask your bf, seriously, if you aren't taking on too many clients? For your own peace of mind maybe the two of you need to say 'No' occasionally. Work/life balance is important, but it's tricky when your bf is your boss.

[kazzianne]

You lot are so brill!!

I think I have made a bit of a rod for my own back to be honest - because im one of those stubborn women who hate to admit failure or defeat(I'll do it if it kills me!!) then I come across as Superwoman.In the last few months as well as the earlier list,ive redecorated the entire house and tried to cope with a huge garden(i was mowing the lawn at 9pm the other night!),

So people would be shocked to see me asking for help I think.

[jno]

don't think of it as 'asking for help', much less 'failing to cope' - just look on it as prioritising, subcontracting, outsourcing... These are perfectly normal, reasonable, professional ways of arranging your life. The world is full of cleaners and Domino's Pizza boys whose own jobs depend on people like you realising that routine but time-consuming work can be passed on to others for a modest price. Like they say, don't sweat the small stuff.

[raysparx]

Hi kazzi. Don't be sad, what you need is a little break from the normal life you have, can't you and your boyfriend get away for a short break? even a weekend would recharge your batteries, it isn't only you ladies that the pressures of life affect, we can feel for you, so turn off the mobile get away either countryside or seaside, imagine just sitting on the prom eating fish & chips, gazing at the sea, oh god sod it i'm off myself to the beach, Take care kazzi, have a big hug from me, Ray xx

[Miss Zippy]

Yes, don't be afraid to enlist help! You definitely need to delegate the more routine tasks. Think of your time at home as you do in the workplace. If someone has a senior position at work, they don't waste their time, answering the 'phones and doing the photocopying and filing. Apply these principles to your home life. Also, the more you do yourself, the more people (ie, your bf and children) expect you to do. They need to see you as a woman in her own right who isn't there just to cater to their needs. I happily enlist help for domestic stuff and don't feel at all guilty as, in a small way, I'm creating employment for other people.

[rugeleyboy]

kazzianne.................. i wish i could help you, my wife went through this after our kids were born? she would cry if said "morning" to her!!!

also, if it makes you feel any better, i am a big ugly bloke with a skinhead at the mo, and due to an unfortunate accident 5 years ago, i bloody breakdown sometimes for no reason!!!

think happy thoughts and remember... life sorts itself out!!

[kazzianne]

Rugeley - I didnt realise you had an accident - not too bad i hope.x