Thunderbolt

[Roughquest]

Hi Guys,

My friend is recently single, and I have been single for a while and we have been regularly going out and having some fun. We are both attractive so not short of male company wherever we go. But the other night she caught they eye of a guy early on in the evening and he eventually came over to sit with us, she really liked him and we all got chatting. She went off to the loo and left me with him and we chatted and got on really well, he gave us both his number, and I sort of took a back seat as I knew she was smitten with him. But I gave in and decided just to drop a text to him as he had not got my number, but to my surprise he told me it was ME he liked, and we have been catching sly looks, and secret meetings so as not to upset my friend, she keeps texting him and he is not interested in her - shall I tell her the truth, she keeps trying to get his attention, but its almost as though he isnt allowed to like me, he is desperate to be alone with me as I am always out with my friend. I never expected this to happen as I didnt like him at first, but I am now wanting to be with more and more. All this has taken me by surprise.

RQ xx

[mccfluff]

i think you need to talk to her as see how she feels, she'll prob be hurt but better to do it now , than if she finds out some other way.

[kate1976]

You're all adults (I'm assuming) so you should just go for it, she may be sulky for a while but she'll come round! Don't rub it in her face though! Tell the guy to let her know that he's not interedsted in her that way and maybe ask if he has a friend for her!

Isn't there any way you could meet him without her, I know what it's like being the only singleton around but I still wouldn't expect somebody let a chance of a bit of romance slip away to keep me happy!

Do what makes you happy, if she gets stroppy, tell her to grow up and find a man that likes her! Harsh I know, but I'm in a harsh mood today!!

Good luck with it!

[atolhurst]

I hate to be negative but do you know he's not playing you off against each other.

But if you're sure that he isn't and he actually isn't interested in her but is just interested in you, has he asked your mate in reposnse to some of her nessages, to stop texting because he's not really interested etc etc. It's not nice saying something like that but it's even worse to be led up the garden path.

I must also say that you going behind your mates back isn't exactly the nicest thing to do either but telling her about you and him may not be beneficial either and might just hurt her unnecessarily. If you're sure that you want to pursue a relationship with this bloke, I'd make sure he's told your friend he's not interested in her and then you and him keep your head down for a while.

If after all that, she still won't leave him alone, then you might need to tell her that you're sorry but bloke has said he's interested in you and that you quite like him to. Probably won't do your friendship with her any good though.