Welcom to the first of many teenage dilemmas
My daughter went to her first "gig" at Brixton Academy when she was fourteen, my husband drove her and her friend there and waited outside (police tried to move him on, think they thought he was kerb crawling!) I was convinced she was going to be mugged/shot/raped etc. Three years later and she is now going up to London to gigs on her own (well, with friends). It doesn't get any easier, I still worry. i make sure she doesn't travel on her own and I meet her from our local station, which means late nights for us parents but I wouldn't sleep until she was in anyway.
She has never come back worse for wear, although I know some of her friends have, one ended up in hospital as she was so drunk bur she was looked after by the other girls. My daughter is quite open about things, she calls the last train home the Vomit Express, seeing people in a state will hopefully deter her.
My daughter has met up with a group of people who attend similar gigs, I have met some of them and they are nice.
My husband and I had cause to drive through Central London at in the early hours recently, it was so busy, I felt reassured by the safety in numbers theory.
My daughter is in London tonight, I pray she doesn't miss the last train home every time, she never has but there is always a first time.!
Interestingly my 14 year old son went to Brixton on Friday night (driven by friend's parents,) I did not give it a thought but he is 6'3" with size 13 feet so maybe that has some bearing.
My advice is will it be any easier when she is 15, 16, 17 or 18? She has got to have her first experience at some stage and you will still be worried sick whatever age she is.
My daughter is now talking about going on holiday with friends next year...that fills me with horror but I think having had some independence she will be better equipped to cope
Lastly my husband said the reason I worry so much is