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Thanks for the many replies..
Have tried reasioning with him-although he is 17 he is very imiture and just isn't interested.
Can't take his stereo out of his room, beleive me when I say if we did that he would call the police and prosecute me.
Stop feeding him-does seem a bit harsh and I don't think that I or my wife could do that, again, he would call the police, but I am not sure that they would do anything, they might get social services involved, who until now have been less than useless, they might remove him-so that might be an option.
The other option is to remove niceties-snacks etc, but that would take an age to re-pay the �120 and he would be unbarable to live with.
Think I have to pay it.
We have been looking at getting him moved out, but, as we care about him that isn't easy,social services \ county council will put him in a half way house-not nice..
Steve