Can Anyone Help Me????

[MaryKate1]

I have a problem....maybe a few. My husband went to prison for something he did in his early 20's. He's 31 now. Well, while he was in prison, his brother and I became really close. He is a sweet, responsible, HOT, guy. The BIL loves my kids and they love him. He gets mad because of the way my husband does me. Me and my husband are complete opposite. He is wild and immature, where I'm more level headed. I take care of bills, take care of the house, take care of the kids, I don't cuss, do drugs, party, or anything like that. I work everyday. I've been at the same job for three years and moved up pretty far in the company. Then there's my husband. He can't keep a job. He was diagnosed with bipolar, depression, and high anxiety. Don't get me wrong when he's nice he's great, best person you'd hope to ever find, would give you the shirt off of his back, but when he's a jerk, he's a full blown JERK. Anyway, I think about my brother in law constantly. Everyday all day. I dream about him everynight. I'm wondering if it's the forbidden fruit syndrome or am I in love with an image of what I think my husband could be? Well, then yesterday I found out, by my husbands friend that before he went to prison he was supposed to have slept with my brother's wife. This woman is a skank ***** that will sleep with anything with a heart beat. He even said my husband described the way her crotch looked. : P Yuck! It' s driving me crazy because he knows I would never be with someone that cheated on me. How can I find out if my husband slept with my sister in law more than 2 years ago if both parties deny it? and by the way, the friend that told me more than less told me if I'd divorce my husband and be with him that he would tell me all kinds of stuff about my husband. That has me thinking, is he just saying that because he wants in my pants or what? which would never happen in a million years anyway But still that has to make you wonder if he's lying.Does anyone know what I should do???

[angeldraws]

The only person that knows what you should do, is YOU. You are the one who will have to live with the consequences of what you decide - and maybe your kids - but thats irrelevant, as kids are adaptable, and you can play it down to them so they will cope better with the situation.....

The only way to save a marraige, if that's is what you want - is if you totally accept each other as you are - warts and all - and i'm not suggesting that's the easiest thing in the world - it isn't! But you know if YOU can do it, even if you don't know whether your hubby can - or will.....

When you allow other people to voice their opinions about YOUR marraige, you are allowing them to undermine your partnership. If you just want 'out,' then don't look for an excuse - you will always find one - just seperate and have the strength to see it thru' Only YOU can decide. Good luck.

[ummmm]

Do you want it to be true? So you can justify your feelings for your brother in law?

You have one life.....if you are not happy with this one then change it, before it's too late and you have to live with regret.

[McNoodle]

Do you know Billy-Bob?

[MaryKate1]

Does he watch? uhh that's not what I meant. And yes I do care how my brother is treated. That's why I have faught his wife because of her ****** ways. There's nothing I can do if he knows she cheats on him and won't make her leave.