ARGH!!! Invitation to stupid Party!!! TO GO OR NOT TO GO!!

[Curious D?!?]

Ok so been going out with my boyf for 7 years, and everything is going well. Anyway over the last 3 years his mates have all started settling down and getting girlf. A couple of years ago i went to a party and the girlf's were all there and for some unkown reason they were just mean too me and leaving me out. I was upset by this but figured who cares. Until I had to go to another party with them all there.

Overall ive been to quite a few parties with them all there and each time I go they do something nasty towards me or are horrible and make me feel so upset (which i know is daft as i shouldn't care what any of them think). I kept going for my boyf as he wanted me there and wanted us all to get on. The last party (last year) that i went too the main girl gave me a filthy looking and was lookin down her nose at me, I didnt care as i had, had a bit too drink but it just got worse, anyway it resulted in me going home and having a big row with my boyf who then went and had ago at the girls and told them how I felt!!! So Ihave not been to any parties since!

Well now the worst of all the girls and her boyf is having a party on Saturday and the boyf has asked me and my boyf to go!!! I really don't want to and my boyf is not making me he understands but I feel I should to show them I'm not bothered!! But I will be totally on my own apart from my boyf who will have all his mates!!!

What should I do?? I'm not a shy person but I am not the most confident person either and I hate confrontation!! They never say anything to me just leave me out look down there nose and talk behind my back which you wouldn't think a group of twenty sumet year olds would do!

Any ideas would be great.

[~Wingnut~]

If your boyf is going then you should still go too otherwise these girls have got what they wanted. They don't like you for whatever reason that's their bloody problem, that shouldn't stop you going! Stick to your boyf like glue, but if you see any other people on their own then go over and try to chat to them, chances are they are feeling as left out as you and you never know you may make a new friend who you can hang around with at these parties in the future.
If these girls keep giving you dirty looks, look them up and down and just laugh at them and then get back to enjoying yourself. They're pathetic girls who clearly haven't grown up from being bullies at school to everyone who didn't fit into their gang! Bet you'll find there's one in the group (if not more) who only goes along with it cos their too scared to speak out!

You go girl and snub the girlie bullies! :o)
......and more importantly have fun!

[Kaylz1988]

I think you should go to the party with ur bf and ask him if u can bring a friend.

Then that way u got the support of another women... and u can give them bitches a dose of their own medicine :-)

x

[4getmenot]

wouldnt think a group of 20 somethings would do?? Ha you should come to my town 30 year olds give you dirty looks. I dont know what to say though, it must be horrible. I guess I always just go out and dont give a sh!t what other people think. But thats me. I'm kinda person that can go uptown and people talk but I can always talk louder :-) and usually turn it around and get them walking out by the end of the night when they dont succeed. I'd say just go and hold your head up high but its really up to you at end of day.

[Black Noir]

If it was me I would leave them to their sniping and go and chat with all their boyfriends ! That would really nark these meany bimbos when their boyfriends report back how nice friendly and chatty you are!

At least if the are going to be bitchy towards you give them a reason and make sure you go to every party and do exactly the same thing every time. Eventually these blokes will realise their girlfriends are just bullies and dump them, then you can introduce them to your mates :)

[Kaylz1988]

This reminds me of my boyfriends nan and auntie. Basically they don think no girl is good enough for my bloke. So everytime I see them they completley IGNORE me give me filthy looks etc.

So new years we went to his nice aunties and his nan and bitch auntie was there. Then his auntie went down to sit in the car til 12 then come back up and was on the phone. She then announced she was leaving saying shes not feeling the company. So anyways when 12 oclock hit my boyfriend gave me a big smacker and a kiss wishing me happy new year. RIGHT IN HER FACE :-)!! So whenever I get invited to his family functions I go! Coz all it boils down to is JEALOUSY... and there own insecurities!!! My boyfriend always sticks up for me. So go and dont let them c its bothering you coz they will keep doing it if they see your confidence is shrinking

[cartman99]

Jesus, if it was me, I would be planning an alternative evening and maybe turn up at this party at about 4am, completely trousered.

Why put yourself through it if you can do something else?.

[Miss Inquiry]

Oooooooo She could be even worse on her own territory, i'd either take a friend or avoid it like the plague. If your avoiding it I'd make sure they think your doing something else, rather than avoiding it because of them.

Bless you, bitchy girls together throwing their weight around are nasty...... x

[tfb]

personnaly id go and get right in thier faces then they have no choice but to aknowledge you wether they like it or not. failing that get chatting to all the people who are not in thier clique and invite them to a party of yours making you the centre of atention and not them

[emx384]

Take a friend! Say you have someone staying for the weekend so can only go if they come along too!

Dont let these cows get you down - the way they are to you usually stems from jealousy - so what have you got that they havent? Is your boyfriend the better looking of the mates? are you the better looking of all of them? Its got to be something? Take hold of that thought and have a good time!

[Curious D?!?]

Thanks guys uv made me feel really confident!! Ive decided I'm going to go for an hour and show my face!!!! ARGH I don't want to im dreading it but think I'm letting them walk all over me if I don't!!!! I am def goin to have a few drinks before I go though and prob will be glued to my boyfs arm all night but at the end of the day I have done nothing wrong and feel its unfair for them to push me and my boyf out the group!!!
My boyf will owe me big style for doing this tho!
Thanks again!!!!

[Curious D?!?]

oh and emx384 I think the reason they are jealous if they are is that me and my boyf have been toether 7years and are happy they avent been with there boyfs aslong and they all trapped there men in to stayin various ways!!! Also I'm just finishing my degree and my future looks good theres don't!!!! Sorry I hate too b soo bitchy but at the end of day they all think they r better than me when they aren't!!! WOOAH got that little rant off my chest
thanks again!!!

[nuoyg]

Bless your boyfy for sticking up for you! I just reckon they're jealous to be honest. I would get done up to the nines, lashings of mascara and lipgloss and hold my head up high and pout the evening away and not take a second look at them. If it was me, I wouldn't drink much though as I might end up giving the old feedback, ha ha!!!