I am fuming! Actually fuming!

[Rubyrose]

I need to vent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

About 2yrs ago a friend of mine (who I shall call S) was living with one of her best friends (who I shall call H) and the lease was up for renewal so S decided to move out as living with H had been difficult (H was single and bringng home men about 3-4 times a week.. different men)

So S told H and H got really angry and one weekend when S was away H moved out and took ALL of S's things with her... not stuff from her bedroom but things like Sofa's, plates, tables, units, cutlery etc... mostly stuff S's family had bought her when she moved into the house! So S was very very upset by it all and was having family problems at the time... plus S is such a gentle person... I would not be able to name a more passive person! So S decided she would try calling H, but obviously, H wouldn't answer, so S sent her a letter... then H replied saying if she didn't leave her alone she would get a restraining order!!!!!!! She had taken all her stuff! What was S meant to do?
So S being the passive person she is... decided that she didn't want to deal with it.. so she accepted the fact that her things and her friend were gone!

(I posted this all on AB when it happened as I wanted to help my friend)

Anyway.... reason for my post..... we had a new girl start in this office this morning and I have been racking my brains all morning trying to work out where I know her from!!!! Then it clicked.... she is H!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so angry! Even more angry that I was nice to her as I didn't know who she was.... and EVEN more angry that I have to continue being nice to her as I am the receptionist so I will have a lot to do with her!!!!!

I am not an agressive person.... but the things I could do right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Rosenicola]

That is realy bad and what a coincidence.

If i were you, i wouldn't risk losing your job to let off steam.

Maybe just ask H nicely if she would give your friend her stuff back and see if they can sort things out.
Maybe do it outside the office so that again, you don't risk losing your job.

xx

[lucylocket69]

I hope she got her things back, working in a law firm, i know that she could have easily made a statement for theft - which would have been taken seriously!

Naww i do feel for you. But as long as the relationship is professional, I think you may have to let it slide. By all means, if you realllly are dying to scream at her suggest a " Ohhh where do i know you from?" Kind of thing, them remember it was her flatmate!

If not, i'm afraid I would just be civil to her, that way you don't need anything more to do with her :)
HTH x

[mccfluff]

i would contact S, tell her about it, then arrange for her to meet you at the office for lunch, so that H see's you together, and then be overly nice to her, if she has a conscience,it ought to freak her out

[mrknowall]

Id do exactly what mccfluff says

[OBonio]

As receptionist, can't you redirect all cold calls to her phone?

[cascarelli]

Did your friend report the theft to the police? Very strange if she didn't. Someone steals her sofa, tables etc and she just waves goodbye to them?

[Jay70]

Just get your friend to contact the Police and do her for theft. The reason H did this is they know they could take advantage of S as they are so placid.

[Rubyrose]

S never took the complaint further as at the time a close family member had been diagnosed with Cancer so she was so upset plus the furniture and stuff was all second hand and wouldn't have fetched much but it was the principle!

S is the first person I emailed and she is now upset as it has all come flooding back! I promised her that one day Karma would kick in..... I just hope its about to!

I absolutely love my job here and can't/ wouldn't do anything to jeopardise that.... but I can be a b!tch when need be!

Luckily she is only here on a fixed contract and will be gone by November.. but until then I have to bite my tongue! Not something I am known for!

I don't do subtle... it's not me.. so if she says 'Do I know you from somewhere?' I will say 'Yes I believe you are the vindictive little tramp who screwed over my friend'!!!!!

Wow look at that... apparently I can be subtle!

[ELVIS68]

Take her in the store room and give her a seeing to

[Rubyrose]

Finally!!!! Someone with some decent advice!!! Thanks Elvis.

Do you remember me posting the Q about 1yr and half ago?

I am so angry! She just came over.. with her new boss and they were asking me to try and get her a parking space! I was all smiles but I was gripping my biro sooooooo tightly! I can't wait till me and her are alone!

[sense4all]

I'm sooooooo glad McFluff and Obonio are on our side! lol. I love their ideas - I think before you invite your mate around, you ought to let the incomer 'catch' you reading a house style magazine, ask her what her furnishing style is ... ho ho ho, then rebrand a coloured name on another interiors magazine SWAG ... never mention it and keep being nice! Freak her right out.

[sense4all]

What about the parking space right next to the bins you know you want to. Waste dropped along the side of her car - gosh I hope her shoes don't get messy... and the bin wagon backing in twice a week ... use the force Ruby. You are only helping Karmic forces by presenting opportunities. Mwah haha ... welcome to the DARKSIDE Rubes!

[wigglebum]

I'm sure you can get H address from personnel files. Get it and while she's at work send the boys round to strip her place and see how she likes it!!

If not go with Elvis and beat the poop out of her!!

[redcrx]

make friends with her to the point of borrowing stuff. Then forget to ever give it back or say youve lost it, broken it, lent it to a friend etc etc etc

Or just take her to one side tell her you cant stand her for what she did and that she wont get any favours from you at work.

oh and tell everyone else about what happened to your friend

[Rubyrose]

Sense - Some good ideas.. but too tame for my liking!

Wiggle - Now you are talking! I am sorry to say it but I am liking you thinking and may I just say now.... that whole idea is possible! So much so, that I am going to shut up... before I incriminate myself!

[Rubyrose]

Red - I've already told 5 people and considering it's only 3pm and there are only about 10 people in today... thats not bad going for me!

[redcrx]

lol, good, spread the word!

senses idea of putting car park space near bins is v good. My car is full of dents where people keep pushing wheelie bins into it when moving them, oh and the smell in summer will be lovely.

[Rubyrose]

See I did think about that but it's not allocated parking... it's just one big car park and you park where you like!

[redcrx]

well give out all the spare 'spaces' to everyone until there sadly isnt one left for her.

[Mammar]

Just on a constructive note, can you enquire how long you have in order to report something like this to the police?
It may still be possible to do something. You could say that you have only just found H and if S has got over her family upsets she might feel strong enough to do something about it now.
It's all down to what S wants to do really as, however strongly you as her loyal friend may feel, it's her shout.
Alternatively if you ever have occasion to make H a cup of tea I could suggest a selection of additions that could be used as flavourings.