Help! getting married and no financial security

[jools100]

I am getting married next month and I live in my fiance's home. I dont own a house. I feed that I have no legal or financial security and am scared to give up my career for kids if it should all go wrong? Do I have any rights?

[CheekyChops]

Have you discussed this with your fiance? Why should you give up your career, can't you just take maternity leave?

[lady_p_gold]

Well when you get married your fiance will then be your husband and you will then, as his wife have the security of being in the marital home. If it all 'went wrong' then you would have the same rights as any other wife. As far as giving up your career, then as previously said, you can take maternity leave and then return to your career. What would slightly worry me is your feelings so close to the marriage, it seems as if you have not really talked to your fiance about the legal issues that do crop up when you get married and that it would seem sensible to discuss.

[meltoadhall]

the general idea of marriage is that you are together and are planning on staying together - whats his is yours and whats yours is his kinda thing.
why should it all go wrong? Get him to put the house both names and make some wills to protect you both, especially if you are going to have children.
Many women work after children or take a career break - you should talk to your fiance before you actually get married if you are so worried.

[hotpink]

so you're not getting married cos you're madly in love? you're getting married cos you want financial security? a month before your wedding and you're thinking 'what if it goes wrong?' is that the attitude to have towards you're future life together? i don't understand some people

[Pippa68]

Things going wrong certainly wasn't on my mind when I got married.

As Lady P and Mel have said, there are ways to be financially secure in your marriage ~ you will have legal rights over finances and returning to work is always an option.

In your situation and state of mind I would be thinking of whether getting married is what I should be doing...

[tiggertan]

A friend of mine owned her home and her partner didn't. They decided to buy a house together, that way they both have the same security/equity etc. He didn't want to put his money in to her house in case they split up and he was left with nothing. They aren't marrried. Think it's a sensible thing to do. Enjoy your wedding day!
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