help needed urgently

[pawlysunn]

hi sorry if this post is duplicated. anyway I split form my ex about five years ago, there are a lot of issues re: access to children due to him being violent, setting garden shed on fire, lies, mental health issues etc etc, I have however agreed to him seeing them once a fortnight at a contact centre which he has failed to set up. Whilst we were together his mother lent us her credit card and pin to withdraw money, we both get a little carried away and the upshot was she took out a loan and paid the credit card off, After my ex left I had to leave work (to care for the kids) and stopped paying the loan but my ex assured me that he was paying towards it (as he wasn't paying for the kids I had no reason to doubt him after all his money must be going somewhere and that the reason he told me he wasn't paying for them), his mother came round to mine yesterday and threatened me with the fraud squad re: the card stating hat her son had no idea of the amount of money being spent and that he was no longer paying as he has been paying me for the last eight months???? not sure where that came from she then said almost in the same sentence and "we need to sort out access for my son" (without a contact centre!!!) The last time the card was used was approx four and a half years ago, I now have a new job and am very scared that if I get taken to court for fraud I will lose my job. Please can someone tell me if the fraud squad can get involved or is she trying to blackmail me into letting her son see the kids without the contact centre.

[Meg888]

In my humble opinion only, I would doubt very much that any criminal prosecutions would arise from any of this. It is pretty obvious she is trying to blackmail you into allowing your ex access without the contact centre. (Personally from what you say about his mental health - I really wouldn't be badgered into doing this). If she took this matter to the police, they would first ask why she didnt report the "fraud" 4� yrs ago? And, assuming she or her son has been making payments against the card, her credit card company would also question the time passed since the "crime" was committed. I really dont think you have much to worry about - stick to your guns and don't be bullied into anything for the sake of your kids if no-one else

[radiogaga]

poor you, the reply above is correct, please dont worry as you have already figured out what this womans game plan is. maybe even speak to the police, c.a.b office or your social work dept. they will advise you and offer protection if required.
take care, radio. xxxx

[treborrobert]

can i ask you a question r you stupid ? .. and when r u going to stop letting this man rule your life ? as for the mother lol stupid cow .. if she give you her pin and card then she done it not you she new what she was doing and ..STOP LETTING THEM BULLY YOU OK !!. HOW OLD R THE KIDS ?

[treborrobert]

the law has changed for children about 5 years ago ..both parents have the same rights to the child or children . BUT !. if your children are over 5 years old then you still have the old rules were the mother has the say. that is why he is comen to you coz he has been told without your consent he has no rights to demand.. you dont have to speak to him or the childrens granparents. he can clame you are unfair .. but with the beatings you have had he has no chance as for the kids what do they want ?

[treborrobert]

and fraud what a joke lol she has no chance... the law is on your side you pay nothing at all ok.. he is the father let him pay after all he is payin you nothing ... and remember he said he was paying it .. so he has took responserbilerty for it ...and yes you are being blackmailed... SHAME THEY DONT HAVE A CASE LOL

[treborrobert]

sorry keep going on but i just want to say . / be happy move on lifes to short you have your kids and you have said he can see them threw a contact center... dont change stick to it .. ...good luck girl !!!!!!! hope you take all i have said in

[pawlysunn]

Thank you for your answers. I thought that might be the case, she siad that the bank are pressuring her into it but I'm not sure.

[treborrobert]

she is only after your money coz u r workin now.. the same old story from mother to son ..... "well she is workin now so why should you pay all the money back ".... take my advice keep her away from your door ! she will always take her sons side....
she is the main link from you and your kids and him. CLOSE THE LINK !