jealous partner and annoying drunk.

[dwaty]

Me an my partner have been together since i was 18 I'm now 24 with 2 young kids there is a 11 yr age gap i was hoping he'd be more mature with age, not true! he gets so jealous with or with out drink wont let me go out with my friends for a night out, he drinks most days goes to the pub after work, an when he comes home he'll start arguing with me over nothing he even imagines things like a fag in his hand to other people in the room. most nights i lay in bed crying because he's called me names, my mum says i shouldn't put up with it i should leave him but I've been with him for so long and we have 2 small children, i do love him. i don't know what to do? i want to have a life.

[miacat]

Hi dwaty - I'm going to brief and please don't think this is without sympathy for the horrible situation you find yourself in but YOU KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION! Get out now before someone gets seriously hurt. Think of yor kids - are they boys or girls? Either way you're teaching them some very wrong relationship values - big hugs to you, hope it works out. x

[dwaty]

thank-you i kind of gathered that would be the response, i have 3yr old boy 18mth girl. I'm just stuck in a rut and i need someone to give me a kick . i actually wish he'd cheat on me so I'd have a plausible excuse to kick him out.
but thank you miacat :)

[Reverandfunk]

Call him a taxi.

he aint going to change unfortunately

[miacat]

You're most welcome my darling - you don't deserve this and, I have to agree with the Rev (as usual!)

[Reverandfunk]

As usual Mia lol whatever do you mean.

Unfortunately Dwaty I lived with an alkie for 3 1/2 years and trust me it never gets better it gets progressively worse.

[miacat]

Sorry Rev I realise you have no clue who I am (I'm generally an observer rather than a Joiner in!) but what I meant was usually I find your comments echo my own sentiments - sorry if I'm overfamiliar.

[Reverandfunk]

I was only pulling your leg mia lol

Dont blame you not joining in most people on here are lunatics but you know who they are lol

[miacat]

oh yes!!!!

[China Doll]

Go to CAB and find out what you can do to get this poor excuse for a man out of your life.

If you continue to stay with him your children will grow up thinking that his behaviour is acceptable.

And thus the pattern will begin again.

Maybe if he sorts himself out you stand a chance but he will not do this (if he ever does) until he hits rock bottom.

If I were you I'd give him a helping shove to rock bottom. If not for your sake, then do it for your kids.

[Reverandfunk]

the name begins with l and ends in d lol

[mycats]

wont let me go out with my friends for a night out,

I'm sorry but that would be enough for me! I hate hearing adults say their partner "wont let them" do something, is he your dad for God sake?? You are a grown woman, get him to hell and get a life for yourself and your kids. Good luck hon, this creep doesnt even respect you, and he says he loves you?

[dwaty]

ha ha, yeah i know it sounds pathetic i know. I'm actually going out this weekend with my pals, you know what he said when i told him take a guess " no your not" and u know what i said: i don't care what you say if i wanted to live with my dad i'd move back home f**k you i am going out whether you like it or not. and he never said a word back!

[mycats]

Yaaaay well done dwaty! Have fun ;-)