how do i tell my dad i love him

[kitten_uk2]

to follow on from losing your parents question i did last month, one recent answer has made me realise, i want to tell my dad i love him before its too late, let me explain my situation. my dad threw me out and said he was disusted with me when i fell pregnant with my son at 23yrs old(i didnt have a boyfriend at the time we had split up.) our relationship has not been right ever since. but we have never been close. and ive always felt like the black sheep of the family. my sis has always done well at collage and in jobs shes had etc, anyway, my dad has never told me he loves me, and doesnt show any affection to me or my son. so how do io tell him i love him!

[tigwig]

why don't you write him a letter or you could say you want to meet him and just blurt it out if your brave enough. Any father who has an ounce of decency should give a positive response. Maybe he is just too stubborn to make the first move, so you do it! You are right, life is too short to fall out with family.

[funkymoped]

whats easier than saying "love ya dad" when you finish a phone call ?
im sure most of us can connect with how you feel, but it is as simple or difficult as you choose to make it Kitten.
like lots of other people in this world, i never told my parents i loved them....
im sure you will get past the moment in time where you want to tell him but cant...
live the moment Kitten, dont wait till its too late.
:-)

[unrulyjulie]

just say it before its too late! I spend my life regretting not saying those three words before i lost mine.
I still have my Mum and i tell her upon finishing every phone call. Life is short kitten! X

[Quoi]

Kitten - I fell out with my father when I was 17 and left home - mainly because he was a bit of an unreasonable tyrant about everything. (no boyfriends until your 19 type).

I started out being really stubborn but one day just decided to write to him & tell him about things as I saw them.

He responded to my letter and we slowly got a much better relationship back. When he died there were members of my family who kept their anger and wouldnt even see him on his deathbed.

I know this is a bit morbid but letters work when its difficult face to face.
I just believed he didnt know how to because of the generation he was bought up in himself ( Glasgow btw).

[Ice.Maiden]

Definitely write him a letter before it's too late. Tell him that you're sorry if he was disappointed in you, but you're your own person, and that whatever happens, you'll always love him.

[raysparx1]

Kitten, No future in the past, you love your dad so go visit your dad when you go into the house put your arms round him or just hold his hand and tell him you love him, he may not know how to react, but you can bet your life he will be feeling it inside, never ever be afraid or put off telling somebody whoever it is that you love them, do it as soon as you can, the fact your sister has done well has nothing to with how you are as a person and for you to think the way you do tells me you are one lovely lady, it has probably gone on so long with your dad not showing affection he may be to embarrased to or not know how to, but he will deep inside be wanting it, good luck Kitten, go for it, take care,Ray xx

[stevie1time]

Listen to Mike and The Mechanics......' The Living Years' you'l know then XXXXX

[unrulyjulie]

stevie, i struggle to listen to that song! Its amazing .

[stevie1time]

I have tit for tat arguments with my old uns all the time, me julie lol, I listen to that tune and all the pettyness goes...just listened to it now, so gonna pay them a suprise visit in the morning...Miserable old gits LOL X

[unrulyjulie]

good for you stevie, as i said earlier, life is too short. I lost my dad just after my 17th birthday and as you can imagine, things weren't great at that age, grumpy teens and old fart parents, so yeah go see them! X

[magsta]

its never to late to say love you good advise is to write a letter stating to him your feelings and everything tell you are sorry if you caused any harm on the family and how upset you are you are not part of him then finally tell him you will always love him and think of him and then leave a contact number maybe photos aswell and leave him to do the rest

[ajrowe]

Sorry but why do you want to tell him you love him when he doesn't seem to love you? He treated you terribly -throwing you out when you were pregnant. You wouldn't treat someone like that if you loved them. If he's never told you he loves you of his own initiative then do you think by telling him you love him it will make a difference, you can't make someone love you.