Evening wedding invites

[Kgrayz]

Hiya.. Me and my partner are getting married in Cyprus in May and are having a evening wedding celebration when we come home, to celebrate with friends and family that could not come to the actual wedding. We will be wearing our outfits etc, so it will be like a normal evening wedding reception with buffet, music etc. We have had evening invitations made for us and are about to send them out, , one of my friends in work has been invited to an evening reception (only) and a note is included in with the invite asking for cash for their savings. Just wanted to get peoples opinions whether they thought this was a bit cheeky or the norm???

[redcrx]

Id say a bit cheeky to be honest.

wait for people to ask if there is a wedding list and then perhaps suggest gifts or vouchers if you need to do DIY or something. Never just assume that people will buy gifts, after all theyre being invited to celebrate not buy presents.

[Carriemunky]

I think it is slightly cheeky yes, for the same reason that I don't believe in wedding gift lists at stores such as Debenhams. If you get three toasters, so what, it's your love you are celebrating not what gifts you get. If they ask what to get you then that is different.

[squarebear]

Don't so that. It's very cheeky and you'll lose friends.

[poohshunny]

I think it is a very personal thing depending on the couple who are getting married. I got maried in October 2006. I had been married before and when I got got divorced I kept the house. In time I met my 2nd husband. He lived with his parents. He got a promotion at work which meant he had to move from Scotland to England. We bought a house together which he moved into while I sold my house in Scotland. This meant we were running 2 houses and had double of most essential household things when I sold up and moved in with him. When we got married we didn't need toaster, kettle, towels etc. What we did need, was to do some home improvements. Inside our invites we had the following:-


To celebrate our wedding you may wish to buy us presents,
However this is not required, all we want is your presence.
If you insist, we must admit, some money would be great
To help us do some home improvements at a later date.
If you still feel the need, to get us a small token,
We would appreciate vouchers for any shop that's open.
Regardless of what choice you make, all we would like to say,
Is come along and have some fun, on this our special day.


Our guests all said they felt better giving us money or vouchers, as they knew their present would be put to good use instead of sitting in a cupboard somewhere not being used.

[PatriciaH]

I would rather give money regardless of it being a second wedding as most people have already got everything they need ..
Also peoples tastes are so different unless their is a "list" of gifts which you can choose from, but for me its cash every time ( so much easier too) : )

[DONNAKEBABUK]

I loved the poem, its a good way to ask for money but nonetheless I would be REALLY put out if someone asked me for money for a wedding present. I had a friend who did the same and they asked for dollars for them to spend on their honeymoon in Disneyland. She kept going on and on an ON about it so in the end I didnt go.

I made a wedding list for my wedding and put everything on it from the Argos Book ranging from coasters at �2.95 to things up to �80.00 and then vouchers if folk wanted to buy the vouchers instead.

You will laugh at this however .................

My cousin got married some years ago, the Bridal Party had to pay for their own suits, bridesmaids dresses etc. They then rang us and told us that they thought it would be better if EVERYONE going to the wedding would pay for their own meal (�25.00 a head). He rang us 6 weeks before and told us that the money had to be at the restaurant that week and could we thus send a cheque for the same.

2 weeks before the wedding he rang us again and told us that they thought it would be best if we didnt get them a wedding present but to give them money instead.

WE WERE HORRIFIED AT THE NERVE !

Katie. x

[Jenga]

DONNAKEBABUK I wouldn't of gone! Totally cheeky to ask for guests to pay for their own meal.

[bushbaby_de]

Hi Kgrayz, whereabouts are you getting married? I'm planning on Cyprus too but next May not this one. We're not asking anyone for gifts because we figure the people we invite to the wedding are having to pay out on flights and accomodation, and the people not coming to the wedding obviously know they aren't the nearest and dearest, otherwise they'd have been invited, so it seems cheeky asking for gifts when they weren't even invited! However if anyone asks and insists we will probably ask for vouchers for a store we know we will use as I don't think people mind so much when they know it will definitely be spent on something you choose. Asking for cold hard cash smacks of being tight and makes people suspect you will use it to pay for the wedding rather than for yourselves. I've only been to one wedding where we were asked to pay for our own food, but it was a close family member who really wanted to celebrate with us but really couldn't afford a big wedding, so there were only 20 of us there - under the circumstances it was undersandable but if someone is going for a big do but tries to make the guests pay that's really out of order!! Let us know what you decide to do x

[Kgrayz]

Thanks for all the replies. I just wanted peoples opinions on here. Personally I think it is cheeky & would be too embarassed to do so,, just want our friends and family who are unable to come to the wedding abroad to celebrate back home with us, were getting married in Protaros and were soooo excited. Our close family are paying to come over for the 2 weeks so will be one big happy holiday (we hope)!!.

[burbie]

My 7 year old grandson was invited to a birthday party of one of the boys in his school class last week.
The invite written out by the boys mum said not give him a toy as a present for his birthday, she asked for Next or Adams vouchers instead.
How cheeky is that.
A child expects a proper present for his birthday. So thats what he got.
She can buy him clothes out of her own money.
Sorry to go off the subject of weddings. Yes I do think its cheeky to ask for money.
I often give a cheque on such an occassion, but thats my choice. I dont like being asked for money, but it does seem to becoming the norm.