Sister & Ex-husband

[garythecat]

About 6 months ago I asked for your thoughts on a situation where my sister had entered into a relationship with my ex-husband and father of my 10 year old son. They had both kept the relationship under wraps for a very long time and I was really hurt by the deception, especially by my sister. My main concern was my son and he has had quite a few issues about the situation but we are dealing with those. There were numerous heated discussions and rows and I was told that I was mentally ill and stupid for finding it a problem. Your opinions were mixed. I would like to make it clear that I was in no way jealous and did not want him back as was suggested might be the reason for my way of thinking. The reason for this additional question today is to say that I have now discovered that there is a history to their relationship and it did in fact begin some 11 years ago, whilst we were still married and whilst my son was a baby. At that time he was 29/30 and she was 14/15. I have this information from a very reliable source. They do not yet know I am aware of the history. I just wondered what you guys thought, should I let them know I am in possession of all the facts and how much they disgust me or just forget it?

[Myriad2112]

forget it

[Myriad2112]

yes, shouldn't have done all that typing really - could have found someone else by the time you finished writing all that.

[Velvetee]

So he was messing with a minor. I don't think digging up the past will make any difference to the situation, just try to move on or you will just live a bitter life. It can't be easy knowing that they've been deceiving you all these years.

[foodluva]

Personally I wouldn't be able to fight the urge to let them know that I was aware of their sordid past!!!!!!!

[Info Bank]

Take some time out on this.

Can you understand Why others had mixed views on this did they have the Info you now Know.

Let thm Know if you feel this is the way to go your Feelings.

But Get on with your life .

You have started your life again ...Do exactly that .

Enjoy your life Find a new partner .

Pitty those who could not do what you can and go out there to find new partners/ Relationships. They had to look Close to home for there Relationships.

You are better than them and you will show them that you are.

[Bohne]

I am with the people above who say:
Let it be!

The situation would be a nono for me, but there is not much you can do now, but aggravate the situation, and that you should try to avoid at all cost for your own, and your son's benefit!