Residency Order just for Secondary school entrance

[ellywellywoo]

Hi. My husband and I will be applying for a secondary school for our daughter this October for 2009.

However we are slightly out of the catchment area for our preferred school. Now we could just pray she gets in but my mum and dad who are in the catchment area have said we can move in with them. It would mean that my husband would stay in our house cos as mums is just not big enough for us all and he is fine with this.
But dont think that this is enough. I will need to change my bank details, child benefit, electrol register to mums which is ok but I still dont think this covers us.
We were thinking that we could share parental responsibilty with my parents and in this way they get a residency order as well which will proves she lives with them. but I just wonder if we are getting too deep in here cos this will need be done in court.

Also there was a family on GMTV last week who were making one of their relatives a guardian of their child just to get them into a particular school. This does seem to be rather drastic???

I just dont know what to do. There is no way we can afford to sell and buy a house in this area but the alternative schools she could be offered are just dire.

Can someone out there please give me some advice
Many Thanks

[Mamjet]

If you won't to stunt your child emotionally then, yes, I would recommend involving her in your half-arsed deception scheme.

Alternatively, send her to the school in your catchment area and have enough trust in her to belief that she will grow into a well adjusted, intelligent and successful young lady.

If the type of school you go to guarantees success or failure then Obama Barack would be a goat-herder and Mark Thatcher would be Prime Minister.

[ellywellywoo]

Gosh thats told me hasnt it!

[6758]

hi ellywelly....

I'm not sure how things work where you are and this might sound a bit deceptive, but do you actually have to move in to your parents house? Could you not just ''pretent'' to be there?

[Mamjet]

That's what I'm here for - glad to help.

[daffy654]

Have you not considered that if you falsely get your child into the school outside your catchment area,then you will be depriving a child who should rightly have that place? No? didn't think so!

[ellywellywoo]

Hi
thanks for all your answers. Yes I do know what you are all saying. Just desperate measures really. We not outside catchment but just want to be a bit nearer the school. There is a chance she will get in. We shall have to wait and see!

Just wanted peoples opinion really which is what I got!!

[ellywellywoo]

And no mamjet you did not offer any help at all but thanks anyway!!

[Ice.Maiden]

I truly think that if you and your husband move apart, just so that your daughter can attend the school you want her to go to, then it's asking for trouble within your relationship. Mamjet's actually right, if you read his first reply properly. If your child has ability, then this'll be noticed and encouraged by whatever school she attends, but if you apply early enough to the one you prefer, then there's a good chance that she may get in anyway. Best of luck.

[Mamjet]

Say again Ice.Maiden? I'm What??

[ellywellywoo]

Thanks Ice.maiden for your reply. Yep your right I know. Had a long talk last night and decided just to put our address down and pray. Its just as a parent you want the best for your kids and will do anything to help them.

[lorri24601]

Before you go to those lengths i would check out the criteria you LEA use for allocating places.When we were applying for schools for our daughter we were told that no where does it state you have a "choice" only that you can express 3 preferences, the first thing they take into account is if they have sibblings already attending the prefered school, not your proximity to the school, we put 3 preferences all within our so called catchment area and got none of them , we were told as she was an only child ,with no special needs, we were free to appeal but it was made clear we would be wasting our time. Good luck and i hope it works out well for you however you decide to go about getting her into the school you want. xx

[Ice.Maiden]

lol mamjet - I agreed with you, in the context of how I read your answer.

And yes, of course you want the best for your children elly. I could see where you were coming from, but if your daughter gets the support and encouragement that all children need, then she'll shine at whatever school she goes to. I hope you get your wish. x

[curiosity]

I hope it all works out for you, however, I just want to let you know that Kids who go to school outside of their catchment areas, tend to get fed up with not being in the out of school crowd who live near each other, you may well have thought about this, but it will be important to your daughter in secondary school.