My ex wants back in my childs life and it is hard

[MsSad]

My husband left my family 2.5 years ago to my surprise. He got a girlfriend and he wanted to be with her rather then me and my child. I put the pieces of my life together, finished my college degree and have been a great mom to our child who was 4.5 when his dad left. My ex comes and goes and moved 3 hours away last August and now is back. He is married now and wants back in my childs life after being gone for a year and only calling him once. I let him take him the last two weekends and my son seems happy his dad is back. I feel horrible and resent my child for wanting his dad is his life. I know this is horrible. He is his dad and it is only natural he wants to know him. I don't have good medical and won't for the next year. I can't seek console. How can I feel better?

[Ice.Maiden]

It's only natural that your son's happy to see his father again, but you don't want him to feel bewildered if his dad's going to mess you about re. access. I hope he's paying towards his son's upkeep, and if not, you ought to implement it - and then allow him to see his son at a definite time/day, so as not to upset your son by doing another disappearing act. Please don't feel resentful about your child's delight in seeing his father. It's not the boy's fault that things went wrong between you. If you can keep your relationship with your ex civil, and businesslike, then providing your son's not let down, I think it's a good thing that they're seeing one another again. Best of luck.