dads....

[rebecca321]

Would you ever promise your daughter something that you know she would really love, only to let her down (on purpose) when it finally came to getting it? If so, why would you do that?

[~spaced~]

im a firm believer in never promising something you may not be able to deliver. End of.

So to answer your quesiton, I would do everything in my power to make my promise happen

[4getmenot]

I dont have a daughter so no

[redcrx]

4get, even if you had a daughter you wouldnt be a dad

[andy-hughes]

What a strange qustion!

No I would never do that, I love my daughters far too much.

[Psychick]

Do you want to adopt me 4get?

[jonesytwotwo]

No. I would move "Elleneyewater" to not let any of my (4) kids down, having made a promise. That is the word Promise!

[unhappychick]

Sounds like another typical case of an a*rsehole father, of which, im sad to say there are many....apologies to all the good dads out there.

You dont make promises you cant keep, especially to a child, bringing her hopes up, making her all excited just to let her down..WRONG!!! Dunno why hes done it, maybe hes trying to get at you

[curiosity]

How do you know it was on purpose.

[leyenda]

Unlike unhappychick ,who seems to have got personal baggage , id need to know if it was promised and if it was deliberate.
if not tehn its obviously excusable as beyond control. otherwise id say no its terrible .



DID THIS HELP ?

[cherrycherry]

It could well be beyond the dad's control, or maybe he was making a misguided attempt to show the daughter that she shouldn't set too much store on material things. Personally if it were the latter case then I think that is a bit heavy-handed, but people do have their own agenda.
I'd prefer to think that the dad couldn't afford the 'thing' in the end and is trying not to lose face by admitting he made a mistake in promising it. Hopefully that person would make it up at a later date.

[legendfidler]

I know of dads that do that quite often



I've been known to myself at times too. SHAME FACE :(

[leyenda]

Im sure as a teenage boy youre not old enough to be a dad silly boy

[unhappychick]

Message to LEYENDA:- Nothing to do with baggage, I take each question for what it is, you have to put your faith in what the person is telling you...thats what this site is for isnt it? anonymous confessions/questions and answers, whats the point of such a site if your not putting your trust in what someone is asking!

[Mr Veritas]

Only if she stopped sleeping with me.

[Ice.Maiden]

I can't see why ANYONE'D promise something to a child, and then deliberately let them down. No excuse at all.

[rebecca321]

it's hard to explan CURIOSITY, but he told me he would help me buy something that i didn't even ask or hint for, so i went out, wasted hours of my time looking for it, then when i found one that i really liked (and so did my mum) he started coming up with a load of stupid excuses as to why i couldn't have it. It took me a year to find out he was just f**king with me, and yes i do know that he could afford it as well. If you thought it was a strange question ANDY- HUGHES you didn't have to answer, and that's just wrong MR VERITALS

[cherrycherry]

To teach someone not to trust, is not 'doing them a favour'. It is undermining their faith in the most fundamental human relationships and could even damage their own self-belief and confidence.
Also, when it comes to giving a present, the issue of 'standing on one's own feet' does not come into account.
He wanted to give a guise of generosity for some misguided reason (to curry favour) and then couldn't give up the goods.
There could be hundreds of different reasons why the father is behaving in such a dysfunctional way...I suspect to hit out at the mother in a very underhand way...but it is not my place to surmise about these things. I hope you do not take it too much to heart, rebecca321 because it is not your fault and there is nothing anyone can do to remedy your dad's actions. Just stay happy and know that your mum is still supporting you...I wish you well.

[tagmoide]

Hi it really does depend on the circumstances, I would always try to honour any promise i made, But then if my daughter or son had misbehaved then i would probably not give her/him something. i cant believe that your dad would let you down for no reason unless it is as above, Or it is out of his hands i really do think you sit down and ask him why
he as not kept his promise