mothers

[petal54]

am i alone in having an emotional manipulating mother?

[pink-kittens]

OMG No! You are not

Mine is the same, and can cry crocodile tears at the drop of a hat, especially when she has been caught out doing something she shouldn't have done - like writing nasty letters to her children (and being stupid enough to think we wont know its her). Completely denying she has written it even though her address is embossed at the top of the page from the previous letter she had written.
That's just one example of what my mother is like

[sara3]

my mum is selfish. incredibly selfish.

not sure that I'd swap her for emotional and manipulating though. any other offers?

[petal54]

glad not the only 1,just hope not get like it (more) myself,but prob,will,once over 70 mine went into hyper drive

[catcuddler]

some mothers are just nasty and feel u owe them somthing.emotional stuff often hurts more than if she was to hit/slap you and lasts longer

[daffy654]

My mother fits all the criteria for being a psychopath:

Symptoms
Common characteristics of those with psychopathy are:

Grandiose sense of self-worth.
Superficial charm.
Criminal versatility .
Reckless disregard for the safety of self or others.
Impulse control problems.
Irresponsibility.
Inability to tolerate boredom.
Pathological narcissism.
Pathological lying.
Shallow affect.
Deceitfulness/manipulativeness.
Aggressive or violent tendencies, repeated physical fights or assaults on others.
Lack of empathy.
Lack of remorse, indifferent to or rationalizes having hurt or mistreated others.
A sense of extreme entitlement.
Lack of or diminished levels of anxiety/nervousness and other emotions.
Promiscuous sexual behavior, sexually deviant lifestyle.
Poor judgment, failure to learn from experience.
Lack of personal insight.
Failure to follow any life plan.
Abuse of drugs including alcohol .

[bigmamma]

Both my parents are dead . However , my dear mum was never manipulative , guess I was lucky but now unlucky that she's no longer with us ;-(

[pink-kittens]

Aww bigmumma, so sorry your mum is no longer with us

Daffy, my mother sounds quite saintly compared to yours - sorry about your mum too :(

My mum lies to try and get herself out of a fix and often ends up having to tell some whoppers to try and wheedle her way out but we can see through them

[dustinmyeye]

my mother isnt manipulative at all,its a shock to read what some of you are writing actually.

[catcuddler]

dust you are very lucky.my partners mother often spoke before she thought but had a warm heart.she was kind of a substitute as i dont c my mum.sadly she isnt here now :(
make the most of her while she is here.my mum couldnt give a monkeys about me :( shes only concerned with her partner

[natalie_1982]

daffy - you're not my sis are you?

Except I would swap drug abuse for .... well I can't word it as well as you have but my mother has faked attempted suicides in a desperate bid to gain sympathy and told viscous lies that she continues to tell because in her mind she is telling the truth; it's almost like she actually doesn't remember how some things happened.

Still, I would not swap her for the world. She has her own problems and I will support her forever, but I won't condone her behaviour and I won't put up with it and she knows that now and we're a lot happier for it, she's very dear to me but I love her more since I have been able to accept her and challenge her, not in a confrontational way but to be honest and tell her I don't like or agree with what she is doing / has done. Sadly her mother and sisters are the time so I just pray every day that I never turn out the same way and that my daughter doens't either xx

[daffy654]

I have no love for my mum..........which is a very sad and shocking thing to say but she doesn't deserve any! There are things she has done to me and my 3 brothers and 3 sisters that you would not believe any mother was capable of.I have spent my whole life trying to be the exact opposite of her in every way and I think I have succeeded at that.My kids all know they are loved and they know I would give my life in a second if it helped them.

[cockroach]

My mum is lovely....just a worrier. And always telling me still at 37 I should do this ...ishould have done that. I just glare at her & she shuts up..bless..My mate has the MIL from hell...nasty old bag she is.

[petal54]

got more response than expected! how my parents have stayed married 56yrs is amazing,my Dad has his cranky moments,but @ 85 why not,but when he nearly died in january & we all went in to see him before he had his op,which he survived,my mum practically had to be dragged!

[wonkon-wonk]

BLOODY hell is this a mother/daughter thing then?
my mother was great , but after reading this i better ask my sister for a second opinion!

[mrs_overall]

My late mum was lovely but Mr O's mother is horrid.
A few days after I'd had a stillborn baby she rang me wanting a favour. When I refused, as I was physically recovering and my emotions were shot to pieces, she uttered the words
"It's been 5 days now...surely you're over it?"
The DAY before I was due to give birth with another pregnancy she asked me to mow her very large lawn. When I refused she said "You've always been selfish."
I rest my case.

[smudge]

My late Mum was a wonderful Mum.

She was very kind & only ever thought of others.

God how I miss her & Dad.

[mrs_overall]

Snap smudge.
Sometimes I think the good ones are taken too soon. xx

[k8bailey]

shocked at Mrs O's MIL!!!

I love my mum, we get on v.well now that she's not with my dad! But my MIL is horrid, bossy, opinionated, rude, wants everything her own way etc. but still not half as bad as some of the others mentioned here tho!!

[natalie_1982]

Mrs O I would have happily agreed to mow the lawn for her; and then gone over her foot. How awful for you xx

[netibiza]

I'm one, but prefer the term control freak, and YOU NEED US!!!