could you live with your mother in-law?

[sam1985]

I live with my partner and his mum and i would like to get our own place, i do like his mum but she can be moody and it creates an atmosphere. My partner and his mum dont really get on and argue. i am 23 and he is in his 30s, he dose want to move out but not as keen as me for different reasons. it feels like his mum is jelouse of our relationship and it feels like compeition between us. its making me un happy. any advice please? thanks

[Ethel]

I'd look very closely at why a man in his 30s doesn't want to leave home even though he doesn't get on with his mother.

[baileybird]

No Never - not never ever!!!! Never in a million years. It would be the end of a really happy marriage.!!!!!!!! Did I make myself clear - never, ever ever ever !!!!! Feel very sorry for you.

[kat83]

no way!!!!

[pinktwink]

lol @doc I agree absolutly no way in fact if his mum moved in I would move out.
Its a bit weird to want to live with his mum could yee afford rental?

[dot.hawkes]

My 27 year old son lives here with his 23 year old girlfriend, they spend evenings in their room, it's huge and like a bed sit really, she is lazy, moody, untidy and unsociable. She hardly bothers to cook, doesn't work, whines alot and when i get home at night the heating has been on all day and she has been on my laptop and downloaded daft screensavers and games.
I am not jealous of their relationship and I donl;t compete with her, it would be pointless cos she does nothing so i would win every time.
If their relationship last, which i am not sure it will cos he kicked her out last sunday but she talked her way back, then i hope they get their own place one day, soon. I like a tidy house and she has trouble understanding that it doesn'y happen by itself.
hope this other view point helped

[lozzylou]

i cant stand sitting up the dinner table with my mil so living with her would be a complete no no. why dont you get a small flat and if he wants to live with you he will come too, if not live apart till he is willing to move out of mummies house

[smudge]

I would love the chance to meet my mother-in-law, but as she sadly died in 1961 aged just 44, I'll never get the chance. She was known as a loving, kind & giving person.

However, if she were alive & a real battleaxe, there is no way in this world I could live with that.

I'd up sticks & leave!

[Nosha123]

I moved in to live with Boyfriend and Mother In Law.. then we bought the house and she eventually found a man and went to live with him.
We now havent spoken in 5 years as she was a witch and tried to con us out of money.... Husband has also not spoken to her for four years.
He was gutted with what she did and she hurt him very badly

[Ice.Maiden]

I'm really sorry to hear about those of you who don't get on with your mil's. Mine's a lovely woman, and never interferes.
Sam - I'd listen to what others've said though. You need to get out and find your own place, but remember, your mil's doing you a favour at the moment, as by living with her, I'm sure you'll be able to save more money that way. The problem seems to be with your partner. He's old enough to support you and find a place of your own, but if he doesn't seem keen, then I'd seriously start to wonder if there's ever going to be a change. Best of luck to you.

[thugulike]

Beware of a man who doesn't want to leave his mum.

[Yvaines09]

Haven't really known mine long as she lives a little bit away from me - apart from the chain smoking I think it would be fine! LOL

[Jamie29]

Yes, I could live with mine. She'd be easier to live with than my wife. LOL

His Mum probably is jealous of you. My mother's a nightmare, and I've never understood how my wife copes with it. I sometimes defend my wife, and I know I should do that everytime.

Have you tried talking to your mother-in-law in private? Maybe she doesn't even realise that she's making you so unhappy. Does she live alone?

[gman150]

I was struggling with my house, so sold it and moved in with my mother in law.

We get on really well but I would not recommend moving in with the mother in law unless you were desperate.

I was there for just over a year and it was hard work. I always felt in the way and this was magnified as the father in law worked nights and was at home during the day!!

Couldn't watch what we wanted on tv, she would come in to our room for things like washing. Always wanted to clean the room when it was tidy anyway. She was a bit of a control freak.

There were quite a few times I would have to say I was tired and needed an early night as i just couldn't face talking to her after working a 12 hour shift.

I found I would chat as much as could but probably spent half of the year in our room.

Don't do it!!