Splitting up with kids involved

[angel21]

I know its a lot harder in some ways but from the point of view of knowing you will see your ex again does that make it easier? Or would you much rather not have to keep in touch and never want to see them again.

[angel21]

bump

[angel21]

What do you reckon me dearies?

[cazzz1975]

you have to put the childrens needs first.

[Ice.Maiden]

The children need to see their father, and as time goes on I imagine you'll just get used to seeing him when you do. Things could even improve between the two of you.

[angel21]

Is that better than never seeing them again?

[rinkins]

I am very grateful I never had kids with the ex, I would not be upset if I never saw him again!

[ummmm]

I'm in touch with all my Ex's bar my kids father.

angel....you really do appear to have issues.

[angel21]

I do have issues at the moment ummmm,

Rinkins - I don't get how you or anyone can be glad never to see their exes again. I should never want to see my ex again but I don't want to never see him again.

I think I will always keep in touch with him. I keep thinking perhaps if I had kept my baby things would have been better and then at least I am guaranteed to see him again. Mind you I suppose even though it appears he gets on ok with his other ex (the mother of his child) it might not be all as it seems. They sound like they like eachother when they talk on the phone (when he phones his daughter) but then again they're hardly gonna not speak at all.

[angel21]

Anyone else egot any thoughts on this ?

[rinkins]

It's because there are several reasons he is my ex and very few reasons that would make me miss him hun x

[ummmm]

I know angel....but they are strange ones. Some people on this site have been through some serious things. Being battered by husbands, sexually abused and so on. You need to pull your socks up and realise your life isn't that bad.

[lil75]

My sons father was an insecure, jealous physco, in the end I had an injunction on him (not that it made any difference), he smashed my windows to my home, broke into my home and hid in a wardrobe and when I got back he jumped out of the wardrobe and hit me mre than once in front of my son, smashed my car up (all windows and lights) and knifed all the tyres, so I couldnt go anywhere, he beat me and my friends up, I could go on and on...but the bottom line is, im glad he is out of my life, and if ever I do see him which is very rare, I drain.....better off without him!!! Dont know what is going on with you angel but it seems you have issues....maybe you should ask what you really want to ask?

[angel21]

OK chick xx

[angel21]

Lil75

I'm really sorry to hear that ((hugs)) :( xxx

I know my problems obviously not as bad as what you have been through.

Yeah you're right ummmm. x

[angel21]

I'm most definitely not a fake persona so up yours