He is not sure he wantskids..

[keljones]

I have been with my partner 5years and i am 23 and extremely broody and dying for a baby now, my partner is not sure it is the right time despitewanting children and being fantastic with kids. He keeps teling me to stop nagging and going on and he will think about it.. i want to start trying how do i tell him this.
please help......

[recruitment]

i had a long term boyfriend and i came to the point when i wanted kids but he was having none of it.... so i left him... found my now husband and have 2 kids and i could'nt be happier! not that im saying leave your boyfriend just say you wil (lol) not really it will happen when its ment to you will both feel the time is right dont pester cuz if you do have them and the kid is screaming all day and night he will prob turn round and say you wanted the god dam thing.....

[andy-hughes]

Fear of the massive change of lifestyle and the responsibiity of a child is perfectly natural for a man, who is not driven by maternal instinct.

If you try and force the issue, he will simply dig in and refuse to budge. You need to accentuate the positive side of children - but if this is causing rifts in your relationship, then it's not the time - or maybe even the relationship - in which to bring a child.

You need to have some calm conversations and explore his feelings on this vital issue.

For the record, I inherited my two older daughters when I got married, and was seriously frightened about having another child, but I am so glad we did.

[ummmm]

You are still very young. I love my kids but if I had my time again I would have had them later in life. I had 2 at your age.

[BagPussAA]

I am in the opposite position to you. Mr Bagpuss would love to have children but I do not want any at all. We talked about this before we got married and although he would be really good with kids and does want them, we agreed that we would not have any. I do know that if he kept going on about it, it would destroy our relationship. You need to give him a bit of space, you can not force the issue if he is not yet ready. I do understand that you are broody and really want a child now but if he is not ready it could cause your relationship to break down completely.

[tigwig]

Give him a few weeks to think about it and don't mention the issue at all. If he doesn't mention it to you after that time I would sit him down for a serious talk, without nagging, and tell him exactly what it means to you and if he decides he doesn't want children then you may have to go your seperate ways.
Is there any other reason he is saying no? Why isn't it the right time? Are you happy together and as financially secure as anyone is at the moment? Can you afford a child and the sacrifices it entails? If he doesn't have any real reason other than being scared then you have to get him to grow up if he wants it really!

[ganesh]

I don't think men understand the huge (and often sudden) biological need to reproduce.I know you are still very young and maybe he's not ready,but if you both know that you love each other and that you will want kids together,then sit him down and explain how broody you are now. It may,after all, take a while to get pregnant ,so ask him if there's a really good reason to wait.

[hannah40]

children are a huge responsibility and need 2 loving parents, we all love cute little babies but they grow up so quickly.im a mum at 47 of a 24yrold and 2 under 5.my first hubby died and i raised my son alone and it was hard work.this time round i have the support of hubby,i know how you feel though ,good luck with your decision.