moving can my ex stop me?

[londonlover2010]

im moving from belfast to london with my 6 year old daughter in june once i marry my knew partner can my ex stop me. we were never married but lived together for years and he takes her every weekend. please help!

[Androcles]

He probably can't stop you, but if he takes her every weekend, what are you going to do about maintaining their relationship?

[ummmm]

I thought the rules had changed.

If the child is born after 2003 then the father gets automatic parental rights. So I thought you now had to get the fathers permission to leave with his child.

[lorla]

Heartbreaking....so the poor love won't be able to see her Dad at weekends?

[Tim123]

Imagine if your daughter lived with her father, and you saw her every weekend. Would you think it was OK for him to move 400 miles away with her? He shouldn't have to 'stop you' moving because you shouldn't even be considering doing it against his wishes.

[gucciman]

how selfish of you taking away his child

[Barmaid]

I am not sure about the position in NI, but in England, Dad could obtain a prohibitive steps order. (My bf did when his ex threatened to move to Newcastle).

[ummmm]

A bit harsh from a few of you. She's just trying to move on with her life.

[Tim123]

"Trying to move on with her life" my a***. She is trying to take a 6 year old child away from her father. When the child is 16, she can "move on with her life", until then she has a commitment to fulfil.

[bednobs]

hi londonlover. Really you have got to think about the best interests of the child, not your best interests. I think he will have to give his permission for you to move her out of the country (although still in the UK)
However, that dosent mean he can't see her as often as he wants, however, i would imagine YOU would have t foot the bill for travelling so they could be together. Are you willing to take the chld to belfast every weekend?
if you can convince the dad that it wont mean he will see less of her, you make get him to agree. Just marrying someone else wont make the dad have any less responsibility or desire to see his little girl

[Whoever]

I thinks the rights of your child to have constant and regular access to her father outweigh any rights you have to move out of the country and start a new life. Weren't you thinking about your child and what might happen eventually when you first met your new boyfriend who lived in another country?

[Le Chat]

So, what would you all be saying if the father decided to move away to London from Belfast to get married? Would you be calling him selfish? Would you berate him for wanting to move on with his life? Would you accuse him of desertion? I bet I know the double standard answer.
Londonlover - I'm quite sure you're not doing this on a whim, so you will have contingency plans for the father to see his daughter. My advice is ...do the best you can for all concerned, whilst getting on with your own life.

[jno]

she is not moving to another country. Perhaps a concerned father might follow her rather than demanding that she dump her fiance and stay put? I don't see anyone suggesting this, strangely.

[Tim123]

Phrases such as 'I'm moving from Belfast to London' (rather than 'I'm considering moving from Belfast to London') and 'can my ex stop me' make me wonder whether the father's rights are at the forefront of the OP's mind.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I'd be just as critical of the father if he were planning to move that far away. (It's over 9 hours by road).

The father isn't the one trying to change the status quo, so suggesting it's up to him to sort out the situation is rediculous.

[Androcles]

"Londonlover - I'm quite sure you're not doing this on a whim, so you will have contingency plans for the father to see his daughter."

I'll bet she hasn't, Le Chat, - otherwise she would a) have talked to him about it b) mentioned the contingency plan in the question, and asked if it was reasonable, and c) therefore not be worried if he was going to stop her.

As for dad moving to London, I'll bet she is getting maintenance etc, so what happens if he moves and can't get a job in London, at least for a while?

[B00]

Gotta admit, im surpised at jno's reply too.

I know you've your own happiness to think of here londonlover, but more importantly you've your daughter's happiness to consider more.

Is she happy with this situation?

I don't know the answer to your question, nor can I offer a solution, but I can't help but feel really sorry for your daughter's dad, who must be in bits over this whole situation. The poor sod, I really feel for him.