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So, confused...when is the right time to have a baby? Im 36 years old
I have been with my partner for over 5 years, he has always wanted kids, I was adamant at the beginning that I did not want them. However, I am 36 now, and he is 35, and we are not getting any younger. I have a house on rent, and he has a house that he currently lives in, and I have moved back in with him from renting my house out. We have decided that we will continue to rent mine, and he will rent his and buy a house together. I have talked about babies, and he has never pressured me, but I am so not sure...I am constantly thinking of the negative...money, how my figure will look (as people say I have a great body) houses, work etc...I am so confused, and have given myself a time limit as to make a decision, as it is not fair on my partner. What do others think?.......
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Hi - it's never a 'right' time to have a baby (there's always money concerns, work concerns, etc - sorry, but think the figure thing is a bit shallow) but if you decide that you would both like to start a family I would not wait forever. I thought I was getting old when I had my first child at 31 (I now have five) - I was worried about the actual birth if I am honest. BTW - I gave myself a time limit on baby 4 and it turned out I was already pregnant with twins!
Well shanoween, not an easy one! Really it's got to be your decision! Your figure will return to normal given a little time! As to work, you can go back after 6 months if you wish, Money, you'll manage, we all do! But it all comes down to whether or not you want to have children, only you can decide!..............Good Luck!.............
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I never wanted kids when I was younger - neither of us did. In fact I had a miscarriage at 29 and wasn't really upset at all (not a planned pregnancy). Eventually I had my one and only child when I had just turned 36. Mr LL was keener than I was, but we decided that there would never actually be a 'right' time and just went for it. Yes my long lean figure suffered and never did go back to what it was, but quite honestly my priorities changed and they continue to change as I got older.
Work became less important, socialising became less important and I became a devoted Mum and loved every minute of it. It was the important job I have ever undertaken. I never wanted any more ids - I am not the broody type, but I am so glad I had my son. The things I thought were important once were simply not important at all!
He is 27 now and I am so glad I had him.
Work became less important, socialising became less important and I became a devoted Mum and loved every minute of it. It was the important job I have ever undertaken. I never wanted any more ids - I am not the broody type, but I am so glad I had my son. The things I thought were important once were simply not important at all!
He is 27 now and I am so glad I had him.
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