Drama with my daughters father

[utah1mama]

I have a daughter that is 7 years old. Her father cheated on me and got the woman pregnant and she had a girl, while we were seperated he was dating another woman and she too ended up pregnant and also had a girl. We had gotten back together after that but we are now split up. My daughter has asked me a lot lately for a sibling, however she has no idea about these other 2 little girls her Dad has fathered. My daughter is the only one of the three girls that he makes any effort to see or spend time with, he has nothing to do with the other 2 little girls at all and hasnt even met the youngest one. I had some big fights with the two other mothers, however now I am wondering if I should reach out to them to let our daughters meet each other and be in each others lives? both of the other mothers live in Nevada and I live in Utah now? what should I do??

[mrs_overall]

Bad idea!
I can imagine the father would not be happy about it and may decide to see even less of your daughter
.If you've had fights with the other mothers they are unlikely to agree to this. I also think it will confuse your daughter.
Let sleeping dogs lie.

[B00]

Agree with Mrs O.

Also,I don't think it's wise letting your 7year find out, just yet, what a sleazeball her daddy is.

[Bbbananas]

Agree with the above 2 ladies. Your daughter is still too young to cope with this revelation - you'd be stirring up a hornet's nest (English expression!).

He is indeed an a-hole.

[utah1mama]

Thanks ladies

[Andyvon]

I am astonished that women are attracted to men like this! What on Earth goes through your head! Why did you choose this waster and idiot to be the father of your child?! Not only that, once you had finally clocked his true colours after failing to do so when you married him (I presume you did get married before you had children Utah!) you then had him back to do it all over again! Then you talk of more children with him! What planet are you on?

There are so many good and decent men and women out there who treat their husbands and wives in the manner husbands and wives should be treated (you can't count these idiots who just live together). Why don't you find yourself someone treats you well and makes you happy? You won't find them in pubs and bars by the way. Is that where you found this one? Is he what everyone says is 'a good laugh' and the 'life and soul of the party'?

Get rid of this prat Utah who will happily watch you and his own children suffer. Divorce is a big step but you can then find someone decent who you deserve. Otherwise you and your children will spend the rest of your lives struggling for money, always unhappy and never knowing what the next day will bring.