My 14 yrs old son and his teenage way.

[Le Chat]

I wonder if any ABers can give me hope!!! My 14 yrs old son has, in the last year become almost moronic. He has become moody, hardly speaks and can hardly string a sentence together without seriously having to concentrate and punctuate with the word 'like' after every other word. He is still doing well at school fortunately but does not like being told 'no' without a strop and 'you're ruining my life' rant after.
Now I know this is all classic teenage angst (which neither I nor my sister had incidentally) but how long will it last??? Any personal experiences or stories from anyone out there? x

[ummmm]

Don't hold your breath...is his name Kevin?

[Sqad]

One out of my 4 sons was exactly how you describe.........he was a prat then and still is a prat as a father of a family of 2 sons.

"You can lead a horse to water, but you can´t make it drink.

[ummmm]

My cousin was like it...he didn't start to talk until his early 20's..

[jno]

about 6 months in our case. When I consulted friends, the consensus was that it might last a year or two in bad cases.

Yes, it's odd, nobody I knew of my own age went through this. Yet somehow it's become accepted that teenage years are a time of turmoil.

[zzxxee]

my eldest daughter is 19 and still gives me the grunting silent treatment at times !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[fairycakes69]

I've got five of the little darlings, (excuse being 2 sets of twins and the fact that the baby books only cover the first 5 years lol) anyway 2 of them are the same as your son, they are boys as well 18 and 20. 18 year oldhas been like that for 4 years and the other for 5, we tend to go into shock when they do speak. The other 3 ,1 boy, 2 girls can't seem to stop talking, just accept it, no point in fighting it, Hubby isn't much of a talker so I just blame him, well it can't be me now can it.

[tillyh345]

Agree with squad!

I have two sons, one absolutely a star, the other one has always gone against everything we believe in and done the complete opposite of any advice, and hes now 28, still really the same but doenst live with us but see him regularly and the only way we have been able to cope is think that its his life, and our idea of happiness is obviously not his. Good luck it is sometimes verysoul destroying but think positive he will probably come out the other end.

[Le Chat]

Thanks for your replies so far. Another 5 yrs? Oh I so hope not!! :( I have another boy of 6, so I hope I don't get a double hit! Mind you my youngest son is very extrovert and gregarious, whilst my oldest son, whilst not shy has always been more introspective. x

[mrs_overall]

My eldest son is still like that.
I have a 15 year old daughter who is the other way - talks incessantly but it is all cr@p. Every sentence is punctuated with "like" and "right" and everything is "hilarious" apart from me & her dad who are saddo's who know nothing.
I think I prefer the grunting son

[jno]

I punctuated my sentences with 'like' decades ago, so nothing new there. (I don't know why people think this is a new thing.)

[ann_h]

A boy? Till he's 25, probably... sorry about that

[sara3]

Le Chat, my son is 13. if he was saying "like" at the end of his sentences I'd be delighted. I get "innit". I even heard him say "innit" to the dentist last week.

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!

[Bbbananas]

He's 14.... nuff said.

He'll be ok. Eventually ;-)

[Barmaid]

lol, welcome to my world. You have just described my 13 year old step daughter who still has the ability to throw a kicking, screaming tantrum just like a toddler.

[Le Chat]

Your replies have made me laugh!! Thank you..and sara3, I take it you live down south..."innit" hasn't made it to our part of the world and I hope it never does as it is very annoying and means nothing!! lol x

[HJT40]

ah Le Chat, welcome to my world, except mine is a girl! I can tick all of the above plus being told very loudly in a pub/restaurant "don't talk to me as if I am a mong!"

You may also experience new "friends" names being mentioned and, if you care enough by then to ask who they are, you will be greated by "UH! I have told you about them before". Once this has happened a number of times you may feel as though dementia has set in - please then realise that this is the only person with whom dementia is related as you can remember everything other people have told you!

Do not under any circumstances expect to find the same attitude at any time of the day or night. Just when you have resigned yourself to them being a grump bag they will get upset if you do not realise that they are in a good mood, until you spoke to them and it was you who put them in a bad mood!

They may even mention events/parties that are coming up that you won't want them to go to with one of their friends that you have heard about - don't worry there is a very slim chance of this event happening, sit back and wait for them to come up with a reason why they are not going!

Most of all, go in his room when he is asleep, kiss him on the cheek and tell him that you love him. He may not know that you have done this, but you will meet your little boy again, the one not possessed by Kevin!

[Sqad]

HJT40 Oh! dear Oh dear! oh! dear.....the old child Psychology ruse.

[Jemisa]

Actually La Chat it does mean something, it means Isn't It? its a lazy way of saying it and I believe its been copied from a TV show.

jem

[HJT40]

Who Sqad, her or me?

[Sqad]

HJT.......ignore my stupid post, it is just that I have absolutely no time for child Psychology............luckily for modern parenting, I am in the minority :-)