Fuming!!! Bleedin schools....

[annie0000]

Due to bullying and its effects on my son, we had a meeting at school before the summer holidays and it was arranged that he would be put on Stage 2 intervention and would be given support from the school Psychologist. In their words, "we have only 2 years to prepare him for High school - we need to get this kicked off now" Haven't heard a dicky bird and as far as my son is concerned, we don't know about this or the assessment that he had at school. He wanted to keep it private so he doesn't know that this meeting was held.

Anyway - just phoned the school for a status update as they had said that the psychologist may feel that she needed to speak to us and may at some point want to organise something as a family to ensure that we know how to support him.

Guess what - nothing has been done. Psychologist is off sick and they have no idea when she will return so they have done nothing instead.

I am absolutely fuming!!!!

No question as such, just a rant - need to find out now how I escalate this, sure it will be through the council.

Anyone been through anything similar?

[what..the?]

I would see how i'st going now one trouble maker has left, will more be chucked out?

And if things don't improve think of moving him to another school. Have you asked him about this?

I know I said my bullying started because I moved, but if he is already being bullied a new start might be good esp if you can get him to go in confident?

I think the main problem with bulling is the embarrassment that your bullied the other kids see and laugh so even if the bully's aren't there you walk round with you head down not wanting to draw attention to yourself esp not attract new bullies who see you as easy prey. Your basically black listed. And that is never going to change unless he a) hits out or b) moves to a school where he can start a fresh.

But due to the shear upheaval I would wait to see if things improve, would he feel confident to hit out now one of the bullies has gone it might be easier it get one of them alone?

Have you tried talking to local high schools or colleges to see if they offer a mentoring facility where your son could sit down and talk with an older boy that understands, it might help him alot to talk with a normal person and not a old fashioned Psychologist.who he doesn't relate to?

[annie0000]

Thanks for all your thoughts and stories guys, it good to see that you managed to come of it and still be the good people you were. You are right, a lot of it is mental and as bad as it sounds, we did say to him that sometimes the only way to stop these things is to stand up for yourself, my husband taught him how to get a good first punch in. As he put it, if you get them hard enough and fast enough right on the nose then they are too dazed to respond for a minute or two and you can hopefully get back with your friends by then! At the end of the day, it's just not in his nature and in a way, I wouldn't want that to change about him.

We did ask him about wanting to change schools but he was non-commital (not surprisingly) as he will just not tell us what he wants! Our other nearest school already has about 3 or 4 kids who used to be in his class in it, one of which he was really friendly with.

As I said, things seem to have settled down a bit, but we are strongly considering sending him to the catholic high school rather than our catchment school. Our catchment school is really well known for it's sports teams and he is not a team sport person, the catholic school is known to be very nurturing (it has about 25% non-catholics). It also starts earlier and finishes earlier than the other school and all pupils take a bus there so it would mean he is not likely to encouter groups of these boys when walking home. His best friend will be going to yet another High School I suspect as his older sister goes there.

Anyway thanks once again everyone - I will look back over your suggestions again and work through what I can. Ax