how to protect children from child protection plan

[rimirza]

my social worker has made a very bad assesment on our family and said the kids needs to go on protection plan. the reports from school and dr were fine the children are perfectly ok just that he thinks they mite be emotianally disturbed which is bull Sugar...is there anything i can do to stop this decision and how

[ummmm]

Probably not.

What is he basing it on?

[woofgang]

why are social services involved?

[ummmm]

Social services are not the baddies. If he thinks the children might be emotionally disturbed then they can fast track the children for whatever help they need.

Sometimes it just sounds worse than it actually is.

[bednobs]

seriously, there is none so blind as those that will not see. Your husband put you in hospital, and you don't think there is a slight chance the children may be emotionally upset, or even at risk?

[ummmm]

Looking at your previous questions...it looks like SS are acting in the best interests of your children.

[anneasquith]

im no expert but, i dont think children have social work involvement for no reason, my advice work with social services or seek advice from a lawyer,

[boxtops]

Your husband assaulted you, what do you expect? - the children are bound to be uneasy, to say the least.

[rimirza]

ok umm well but he did,nt find anything from anywhere i go to the same school as volunteer and the teachers know me and my family and the incident was just a one off....
but he thinks that my children although nuthing on out side but maybe emotiannlayy disturbed,,,
ok fair enuff what will happen now at the conferennce will this report make a deciosn or will they consider it and then make a desion??? do i have to worry plz answer which can help and make me worry less thankx

[ummmm]

No they don't Anne....but in most cases they are there to help. Not to take the kids away.

I had social services involved with my son because of his behaviour at school. We lost some close family members in a short space of time. SS were a god send...

[ummmm]

Don't worry....they won't have a hidden agenda rimirza. They are trying to help and their aim is to keep families together.

[bednobs]

you need to be asking the social worker these questions

[ummmm]

Yes bednobs...but reassurance goes a long way.

[rimirza]

oh thankx i,m so worried ur answer really helped ...so if they will put the names on register then they will take it off if everything goes well....THANKX ummmm

[bednobs]

yes, but if it's false reassurance, what use is it?
with specific questions like "what will happen now at the conferennce will this report make a deciosn or will they consider it and then make a desion??? " how will anyone else know other than the sw team?

[ummmm]

Yes....I'm presuming what your husband did was pretty bad to get put on the register in the first place. I've only had dealings with the Family Support side of it. They were great though. They arranged bereavement counselling for my son...and art therapy for my youngest son. Was involved with us for about 6 months....If it wasn't for SS my son would have been on the waiting list for counselling for years. It was actually his school that contacted me asking my permission to contact SS so things could be fast tracked. And they were right...he was emotionally disturbed but as I was also grieving I couldn't see how it was effecting him...

[ummmm]

Bednobs....if both the school and the doctors have said they have no concerns then SS will go with that.

How old are the children rimirza?

[rimirza]

they are 7 and 5...and he also made mistakes abut their imminizations and which i just got the report from the dr are 100 fine and my GP school nurse teachers have all said they are fine no change in behaviour and we never argued in front of kids NEVER and this incident happened when they were upstairs....but still they want the kids to go to children center and receive wishes and feelings work...whatever is that???

[ummmm]

They are just making sure that they are emotionally ok. Although you think they haven't overheard you arguing the chances are that they have.

I do find this quite unusual for what you say is a one off incident...

[ummmm]

Wishes and feelings work..

Wishes - that Mummy and Daddy didn't fight..

Feelings - That I miss my Daddy

That kind of thing.