Please can someone help!

[ayabrea38]

OH was taken into hospital with Necrotising Fasciitis and I just need someone to help me understand why this happened.He had been bed bound for a few weeks but as far as I could tell there where no open wounds where this happened(top of his left leg).
I'm sorry for posting this here but I am totally in bits and can just about hold it together to type this :-(((((.
I would be glad of any answers .
Thanks all
Aya

[AlBags]

Best of luck to you both : )
Al.

[ayabrea38]

Thanks Al,it means a heck of a lot.
Aya

[daffy654]

This can occur from the smallest of sores, he may have just had a tiny spot there that neither of you had noticed.

[sara3]

at least he's in the right place and will be receiving the right treatment. I wish him well.

make sure you eat and look after yourself, as you can't afford to fall to pieces right now x

[Dris]

Im so sorry -worrying time x
What type of treatment is he receiving and is he improving?
Dont be sorry for posting -it helps to share x

[ayabrea38]

Thanks all.
You are right about eating sara3,I have found it hard.
He now has a vac dressing(!!!)on which is a tight seal with a suction pump to suck out any remaining goo.
He is also on HUGE amounts of antibiotics,which we where informed yesterday are doing their job very well.So after the 2 surgeries he had,he is getting better but in a massive amount of pain which I find heartbreaking.
Being disabled myself I am so used to him looking after me and I don't want to push the poor kids too hard,you only get one go at teenagehood after all.
You don't know what you've got till its gone keeps ringing round my head.
Gosh,I love the daft sod so much

[cazzz1975]

I hope he is better soon xxxxx

[Dris]

Youve been running on adrenilin and now youre seeing the light at the end of the tunnel all your emotions are coming out -believe me thats a good sign as its a sign of relief.As has been said you now have to look after yourself as you wont be much good to the old s0d when he gets home -will you now !! :)
Now try and start relaxing and eating and stop worrying about others now -he's turned the corner and the carer now has to be cared for x

[pastafreak]

This almost has me in tears....love and strength to you both xx

[ayabrea38]

Dris,you are the voice of truth!
At least in HDU he get the best attention possible and I keep telling him and myself things can only get better,even though it will be tough.
I know he's getting better when he started nagging me about opening windows at night!
It is tough when I just found out he had a bad night and is depressed,but who can blame him.
Thanks everyone
Sorry to put a downer on things
Aya

[~Wingnut~]

Sorry to hear your husbands in hospital ayabrea, I hope he is home soon.
Look after yourself and chat away on here if it helps :o)
xxx

[Mamyalynne]

Oh aya, my heart goes out to you, as others have said he is getting all the right care and it seems to be working. Therefore get yourself strong and , yes you must eat!
As for the young ones helping you, that is what families do in a crisis,don't feel too guilty.

A big hug to you all
Mamya ♥

[crisgal]

you poor thing, here's a big hug -xxx♥xxx-
My mum is disabled and although i'm no teenager (!) it hurts me when i find out later about something she needed and didn't like to bother me.
I feel so bad and am always telling her to let me know what I can do (beyond the day to day stuff|).
So I'm sure if you tell them all the things you need help with and then perhaps say something like:
'I'm not expecting you to do all those things but would really appreciate any of them you can do' they would be happy to help.

[~Wingnut~]

Try not to let it worry you that he feels that way, he just wants to be home so will be feeling a little down. My husband is the same when he's in hospital but once he's home he's back to his old self xx

[pusskin]

(( big hugs ayabrea38 ))) wish hubbie better

[ayabrea38]

If anyone tries to tell me that all teenagers are bad,they havent met my kids.
I was having a small meltdown at 3.30 this morning,and I thought I was keeping quiet,next thing I know my daughter is there,hugging me,murmering it going to be OK and listening to me pour my fears out.
I feel like I just got a big hug from you all :-)))
My only relative lives in New Zealand and I found a hug down a phone line does work,so PC one work too!
Thank you so much everyone.
Aya

[~Wingnut~]

Sounds like you have great support in your kids ayabrea, reading that actually made me well up! You sound like a lovely family xx

[ayabrea38]

Just like to add
I used to be a strong person,but after getting my disability it left me a little weaker.
Carers do an amazing job
If any of you have one,give them a big kiss from me
Love Aya

[ayabrea38]

Wingnut dont start me off again!!

[Dris]

Remember to pop on and let us know how you and hubby are.Theres always someone here for a chat -what a lovely caring family you all are.You'll get there in the end ((x)) to you all.