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What would you do?
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A good friend of mine is HIV positive. She has been for 3 years as her ex boyfriend was a druggy behind her back and bisexual. A sad story really
I have always supported her in this situation.
We haven't spoken for a few months due to a stupid misunderstanding and partyly the reason below:-
She came to visit me just before Xmas and me and her new boyfriend, (Well she's been with him 3 years) got talking on a night out.
He was saying how he wanted kids, but that my friend hasn't yet got pregnant. I said well why would she as she uses condoms. To which he replied, 'we have never used condoms, as i'm allergic to them'!!
My friend always said she used protection in order to proect the boyfriend from the disease. He doesn't even know she has it and she's totally lied about using condoms throughout their relationship. There is no need for him to lie as he is non the wiser about her condition and it was just a general conversation.
I think this is bang out of order and have totally dropped my respect for her since.
I would never open my mouth as this isn't for me to ruin lives in a big way, but that is what she is doing to her current partner. Surely this is illegal. If he does have it, he will need drugs for it surely.
The worst thing is he's such a nice lad, only 23 and works really hard for the family and her son that isn't even his.
I could never say anything, but what would you do?
I have always supported her in this situation.
We haven't spoken for a few months due to a stupid misunderstanding and partyly the reason below:-
She came to visit me just before Xmas and me and her new boyfriend, (Well she's been with him 3 years) got talking on a night out.
He was saying how he wanted kids, but that my friend hasn't yet got pregnant. I said well why would she as she uses condoms. To which he replied, 'we have never used condoms, as i'm allergic to them'!!
My friend always said she used protection in order to proect the boyfriend from the disease. He doesn't even know she has it and she's totally lied about using condoms throughout their relationship. There is no need for him to lie as he is non the wiser about her condition and it was just a general conversation.
I think this is bang out of order and have totally dropped my respect for her since.
I would never open my mouth as this isn't for me to ruin lives in a big way, but that is what she is doing to her current partner. Surely this is illegal. If he does have it, he will need drugs for it surely.
The worst thing is he's such a nice lad, only 23 and works really hard for the family and her son that isn't even his.
I could never say anything, but what would you do?
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<<<<<A good friend of mine is HIV positive.<<<<
One must assume that you have good evidence for this?
If this IS the case, then he is also probably HIV+..........bit late now eh?
Difficult:
However he must be told and I would "bite the bullet" and ask him if he felt that he ought to be tested and if he enquires as to why, then I would spill the beans.
One must assume that you have good evidence for this?
If this IS the case, then he is also probably HIV+..........bit late now eh?
Difficult:
However he must be told and I would "bite the bullet" and ask him if he felt that he ought to be tested and if he enquires as to why, then I would spill the beans.
Zebadee, i totally understand what you're saying and haven't spoken to her much since because of it.
It would ruin so many peoples life if i said something and that's not something i could live with, although on the flip side, it's hard knowing that his life is in danger and he more than likely already has the diease. I must stay out of it.
It would ruin so many peoples life if i said something and that's not something i could live with, although on the flip side, it's hard knowing that his life is in danger and he more than likely already has the diease. I must stay out of it.
Trouble with your situation is that you are between the devil and the deep blue sea. If you tell him then your friend will blame you, if you don't tell him and he finds out you knew about it all along then he will blame you. This lad needs to know, his health is in danger. I feel sorry you have been put in this situation, but if I were you I would tell him.
