Is Saying 'thankyou' Going Out Of Fashion?

[KristalB]

Three things have prompted this question. Firstly a middle-aged man in front of me in the Co-op the conversation went ' a lottery ticket for tonight' checkout 'girl £2 please' man throws £2 on counter and walks out. Secondly, again middle-age well dressed woman in Sainsbury's cafe spouting off there were no prawn sarnies left, threw a packet of egg sarnies literally at the checkout girl and said' a latte with that' Truly I could not do that it costs nothing for a please and a thank you. The worst was yesterday. I offered to help someone with a problem they had, an 'acquaintance' from FB -friend of a friend. I gave her and her husband 7 hours of my time, gave them lunch and tea and when they left I got a 'see you then' - no thanks, nothing. If that had been me I would have at least taken a little pressie, flowers or wine, especially as they knew they were getting around £200 worth of free advice and help. Is it me? Should we just expect bad manners now a days.?

[ummmm]

Some people have manners, some people don't.

[KristalB]

Ummmmm so do you think its upbringing? Surely every adult knows to say please and thank you?

[B00]

I work in a Co-op and we're genuinely surprised if we even get acknowledged at all, never mind a please and thank you!

[aelmpvw]

of course there are bad mannered ignorant people around but i'm convinced that they are in the minority

[SlackAlice]

I'm old fashioned then ☺☺☺

I always say thank you and I'll continue to do so.

[Octavius]

About half an hour ago a well dressed professional woman walked through the door I was holding open for her without so much as an acknowledgement of my existence. So I tripped the cow up and spilt some hot tea on her.

(the second bit....not really)

[boxtops]

Some people seem to think that shop staff are there for their benefit. I couldn't do it.

The incident yesterday with your feeding them and everything is awful - but if they are only casual acquaintances, they were treating you casually. Perhaps she'll thank you on FB. That's not acceptable.

[ummmm]

I really don't know. Luckily I rarely meet ill mannered people in day to day life.

[excelsior-1]

good afternoon Kristal

it is an unfortunate fact that the society we live in today has created a culture of ill manners and verbal abuse

i see it around me all the time, and it makes me feel like i am in the minority - and even feel old fashioned, as i was brought up to always use manners, saying please & thank you when required

[bookbinder]

Standards of behaviour have been on the downhill slope for a long time. This lack of politeness is learnt from parents and from television.
I think, also, that some people see it as a sign of weakness to say 'please' and 'thank you'.

[lardhelmet]

I go out of my way to be polite, particularly to retail staff. They probably think "Silly old moo" but I don't care. Manners cost nothing. Perhaps it's watching too many American TV programmes/films as they rarely say please & thank you for anything.

[B00]

The majority are on their mobiles and don't even bother giving you eye contact. After all, we're paid to give them a service, and by gum they're gonna get their moneys worth ;-)

[Octavius]

"it is an unfortunate fact that the society we live in today has created a culture of ill manners and verbal abuse "

Hmmm, so it must be the fault of the (your) generation before then, raising ill mannered illterates.

[ummmm]

Funny that, Excel, the rudest person I've ever known was my grandad...

[mazie]

I got a dance down the aisles of a Co-Op with a charming OAP about 6 weeks ago....was smashing and somewhat of a surprise :o)

[cazzz1975]

the rudest people I have encountered in life have all been old strangely

[KristalB]

I would have said it was an age thing but I don't think it is. I've seen very rude people who were old enough to know better, and charming polite young people with perfect manners. This might sound inflammatory but is it a class thing? or a regional thing? I don't think it is, but would like to find out why some people are downright rude while others naturally polite.

[ummmm]

I live close to a boys school which means they use the same shop as me. I'm yet to encounter bad manners.

[nungate]

If I encounter bad service I walk out of a shop or restaurant. It costs nothing to be polite, or say please and thank you. I make a point of being pleasant to checkout staff, it costs me nothing and is quite possibly one of the few times they could be treated civilly in their work day.
As far as I'm concerned, good service means return business bad service I won't be back!