Had A Lovely Day

[jennyjoan]

Had a lovely meal today with my lovely friend. But I feel something is a amiss. Her and hubby have a beautiful home etc etc - you know plenty of money - yet she is starting a new job at 61 years of age next week.

She wouldn't talk about it - all she said I'm not ready for retiring yet.

She is just walking into a tuppency hapenny job. Another country another job at 61 and staying in B&B for two nights.


She was "vacant" talking to me about it. I am worried about her.

Is this ok to start a job at that age. Correct me anybody.

I am pretty worried about her. Should I be.

[tonyav]

She must be happy about it, jj. She wouldn't have taken a new job on otherwise.

[Jackdaw33]

//I am pretty worried about her. Should I be.\
No.

[jennyjoan]

why not - I would be ***ting my pants - in another country an all.

[Canary42]

61 is nothing for starting a new job - good luck to her. How long since she last had a job - if it's a long time she may be finding idleness boring. Money isn't everything - although in this case it [does] give her more options - so she must be keen on the job for its own sake, which seems promising. It's good of you to care about her, but I think you can rest assured. But I can understand your anxiety if she was reluctant to give details.

[Jackdaw33]

Which other country?

[jennyjoan]

I know yous don't know - but kiddies have left home - hubby at home all day - 2 new dogs - why does she not be at home. Sorry guys - just need to get this off my chest since I didn't get it off with her. And also she was my usual happy bubbly friend. Somewhat down or what.

[Mamyalynne]

Seeming vacant might be because there is so much going on at the moment, if anything is bothering her I'm sure she'd tell you as a friend,

Just make it clear you are there if needed.

[jennyjoan]

walked in from a job last week to a new one next week in a new country - working 3 days a week but 2 nights in a B&B. Nothing convinces me something is/is not awry.

[Cloverjo]

I expect she's fine. She might be thinking "Is this it? Shall I do something else? Do I have to sit and listen to OH breathing loudly and annoyingly every evening? Am I going to bop him on the head in frustration?" Etc.

[jennyjoan]

thanks Mamy - we needed more time today - our time was slotted - you know hubby left us off - they live a good deal away from me. then her niece picked her up - so all we had was about 4 hours. No, I know this friend - she was down.

[Cloverjo]

We crossed posts. Given you said he's at home all day, I would definitely think she just wants a change.

I live and work with my OH and could cheerfully bop him on the head, or leave.

[jennyjoan]

cloverjo - you could be correct but do you not think at at over 60 you call it at a day and listen to hubby snoring, breathing. god almighty - that day is going to come to her some day.

[jennyjoan]

The oul eeejit I am - should I worry about her. Thanks

[Georgiesmum]

I dont think you have any reason to be worried about her jennyjoan.I can remember when our lady on the local mobile library bus was devastated when she was made to retire when she was sixty., yet she loved her job and did it well. Some people just prefer to be out working as long as they are fit and able, and like their own space.

[Islay]

Its not all about money your know! Not everyone is happy having plenty of money!

They want to be useful and do something rather than sitting around and 'lunch'!

You yourself were looking for jobs not long ago so why shouldn't she?

My father remarried at 60 and found it the best thing he ever did!

[ummmm]

Why do you involve yourself in other peoples lives so much? You seem to dissect everything and worry unnecessarily.

Jenny - What makes you happy doesn't mean it makes other people happy.

My mum is 64 and although retired she is very active and if it wasn't for all the groups she's involved in she'd probably get a job.

Same as MIL who moving back to Ireland this year. She's 62 and the top of her list is finding a job even it's on a voluntary basis. Some people just can't sit about. Money doesn't come into it.

[hereIam]

I don't understand why you're worrying about her jj, she's old enough to make up her own mind, surely ??