Moving on from lost love?

[Suade7]

What do you do, when you find that your asking yourself everyday how a relationship may have turned out and your re-living moments of it from years ago in your head, like on playback and wish you could just rewind time and snatch one more moment with that person!
I got married very young and surprise, surprise it did not work, I am now living with my partner of three and a half years but feel like i'm suffocating! I'm twenty six now and between my marriage and my current partner, I met a man who just seemed to take me away from the reality of life, I have never experienced anything like it, but I could be in a room or a club and he would be the only person in there, the only person I could see! He was approaching thirty though and I was twenty two and still a little wet behind the ears and did not have the grasp and understanding of life I have now. I was jealous of his female friends-sad I know! Its the age old I wish I knew then what I know now! I have looked for him, but the last I heard he was jetting off to Australia, I doubt he has given me a second thought! I get so frustrated with myself though, because its only now i'm older I understand the things he wanted and was talking to me about! I just wish I could have met him now and would be able to talk to him, I understand the complexties of life now and am not that young girl anymore! I know i'll never find him now though and i'm sure hes happily married etc, I just wish I didn't think daily about "what if", beacuse it just drags me down and i've felt like this for about four years now! My friends say people are in the past for a reason and everything happens for a reason! I understand that, but at the same time, I wish I could just snatch one last moment in time with him - sad I know!

[meglet]

Have you tried trying to find him on friendsreunited or facebook? I've got back in contact with a few people that way and maybe you could find out where he is and if he is married or single?

[taliesin238]

No your not sad i have been through something very similar!! I have lost this guy for good now cos he is engaged with someone who he seems very happy with. We split 7 years ago and i still wish everyday that things had been different. It is the same old cliche that if i knew then what i know now, then i would have done it all different. When i think about it i remember that at that specific time in my life i MUST have done what i thought was best for me at that time. Whether it was the right thing in the long run or not, i still made that decision and thought it was the right thing at that point in my life (hope this is making sense). I think that if i was still with him i would not have learnt many of the things that have made me who i am today!
I am now holding on to the old saying that 'there is someone out there just around the corner waiting to swipe me off my feet again'!!

You will find someone and it will be then that you realise just why things have happened the way they have and you will find that you wont be thinking about this guy in the past but looking into the future with your new found love....this is what im hoping anyway!!!

I really dont think ive helped you here at all sorry but probably made things worse!! All the best to you and here's to the future!!! x x

[jhosking1981]

Go with ur heart. You sound like you need a fresh start.
You will one day find your soulmate. I wish u the best of luck, I'm sure you deserve it x