Greedy BF...

[Spcl22]

Hiya,

My BF has recently moved in (2 months ago) and we are getting along really well. We have had a couple of issues, which we have spoken about and have pretty much sorted out..... my favourite saying is 'every day is a school day!' As I always learning things about him.

But... there is one thing that is really beginning to grind at me and although I have tried the 'making a joke' or 'being sarcastic'.... it still goes on!

Basically he is really greedy when it comes to food and drink... for instance... if we open a packet of penguins - he won't just eat one, he'll eat them all.

Or if we open a bottle of wine, he won't just have a glass or two - he'll drink it all.

A box of after eight mints... he opened them and then demolished the lot!

Yes, he is a big man and yes he does eat alot, but these things happen when I'm not around and to be honest its beginning to do my head.

I'll go to the fridge for lets say a penguin (as I did last night) and they were all gone!

I guess that some of you may think I'm over reacting, but to be honest, its really beginning to get on my nerves as I keep going to get something and its gone because he has finished it off and its not been replaced.

I've already tried talking to him and he doesnt see where I'm coming from. He just says 'its just a bottle of wine', I'll go and get another one... but he doesnt!?

What do I do?

I know that its really minor compared to some issues that people have to put up with, but its something that is really getting to me and I think that I'm going to explode!!!!

Thanks...Spcl xx

[sara3]

personally, I'd stop buying the things he pigs out on. I know you'll suffer in the short term, but he will eventually find out what it's like to not have it all to hand.

hopefully he'll learn a lesson.

PS - I could do a whole box of After Eights, no problem!

[4getmenot]

ha ha just like my bloke. I dont live with him but he's at mine most nights and I never snack at all, but I have to buy him goodies for when he gets hungry, the other night he ate a whole pack of cookies, an apple, a fruit cocktail and then a bowl of cereal all after dinner :-) It only annoys me though when he moans theres nothing for him as I cant afford snacks all the time. Thing is he doesnt put on any weight, its so not fair

[hippyhoppy]

I agree with Sara - stop buying penguins and wine and he won't have them to scoff...or make a secret stash in your tampon box... he won't go any where near there!

[redcrx]

lol, Mr CRX is just like that! I have to buy stuff like chocolate and tell him that a certain pack is just mine! otherwise it all goes!

But its part of who he is so i dont complain (much)

[sara3]

hippyhoppy - if I should ever find a man again I'll be sure to hide the After Eights in my tampon box - an excellent tip!

[Spcl22]

Ahhhh thank you so much all, fabulous ideas too!

Loving the hiding in the tampon box.... that is superb!

Thank you for not thinking that I'm over reacting, I know its a silly little thing, but its just annoying.

Anyway, its who he is and I'm guessing he is not going to change.... I just have to deal with it better and be a wee bit sneaky!

I feel much better now......thank you thank you thank you....

[DungeonJayne]

Just reading this thread has given me indigestion.

[unhappychick]

Sounds exactly like my children...apart from the wine of course...I dont really eat chocolate a lot and when on the odd occassion that I do and am thinking mmm going to the cupbaord, I open it and hey presto theres none left! So I can see why it angers you, I stopped buying it all for a while and got fruit instead...try that!

[jno]

several issues here.

He eats/drinks a lot, maybe too much. Maybe he's got some sort of digestive dysfunction that doesn't let him know when he's full; maybe he's responding to some childhood trauma. You can worry about his health but you can't do much about it; only he can.

He eats your food and doesn't replace it. That's inconsiderate. He can learn to be more responsive to your requests to replace stuff he consumes. But as a couple, maybe you should undertake joint shopping trips where you can talk him through buying what is needed to make up for what he's consumed. At the very least, keep a joint shopping list on which you write down things that need replacing, and train him to use it. Most people in relationships end up doing this; you have to stop classifying food as 'mine' and 'his'.

He does it when you're not there. I'm not so sure why this is a problem - does it stand in for any wider jealousy or lack of trust about what he's up to behinjd your back? If so it's worth having a think about.

Anyway, consider which of these angles is the one that's really causing you grief. In my experience people who eat too much have to make their own decision to stop; all you can do is decide whether you want to live with it in the meantime.

[Velvetee]

My partner is the same, but then so am I. He will eat a whole packet of bisuits in one go and I'll eat a family size bar of chocolate in one go.

I personally think you are being a bit petty and mean. Your boyfriend obviously enjoys his food. Everyone is different and you shouldn't deprive him of what he enjoys.

I know it's hard when you've been living alone and then another person moves into your own personal domain, but for you to invite him to live with you, you must think alot of him.

There are probably things about you, he finds irritating. Try to get over it, life's too short to be fretting about such things.

[McNoodle]

jno - you think too much...

[gravthechav]

go shopping to places like macro where you can buy in bulk.


hope this helps

[gucciman]

makes a nice change from the woman scoffing all the biscuits and treats !

[ceejn]

I don't think its minor,this would really really pee me off. Stop hinting and just tell him outright that from now on he buys and pays for the food cos you didn't realize what a pig he was and you can't afford hes food bill.It bothers me that he says he'll replace it and never does....food is hardly cheap. Watch out that hes not getting a free ride,does he help with bills etc?