Just a quick question?

[Leapers]

i was with a guy for a while then we just sort of drifted i didn't sleep with him and he wouldn't come near me (kissing anyway) i think he was shy or something but one of my friends told me while we were together that she also liked him a lot and he knew it, she was a bit obvious at times but it didn't bother me. when we split they got together about a week later but i have only just found out (a few months on) and me and this guy had a bit of an awkward time for a while becasue we have the same group of friends.

I'll get to the point... the thing is he's behaving like he was just before we got together towards me again and i like the atention becasue i really liked being with him! (im an idiot) but i think he only got with my friend becasue he wanted to get laid and knew she would be a 'sure thing' (i dont know if they have)

What should i do people??
Also just to let you know im not the most outspoken person and am very shy and hate talking to people when it may be a little awkward so some easy advice for me please!!

Thanks

[happyone2]

i would run away very very fast and never look back................ i personally think this man is a predator, he picks vunerable or shy women, makes them feel good about themselves and then moves on to someone new.....

Dont be taken in, he did it to you once, he will be doing it to your friend and he will do it again to you....................

[Leapers]

but happyone2 he is a lovely guy who was one of my best friends before, i just dont know what signals i am getting from him now.

[lil75]

Wouldnt care how nice I "thought" he was, if he left me and went with my so called friend, it wouldnt even enter my head about going back with him!!! I have respect for myself...and so should you!

[happyone2]

They are lovely guys, thats what makes them such good predators !!

The fact that you can not see his unacceptable behaviour is because he has blinded you to his true self .....

Im sorry that you are having to hear this, but on some level i think there must be alarm bells ringing for you to write on this site, and they are correct you know................... we all - im sure would wish they werent, but if i go with my own gut instinct, this man is a wolf dressed as a lamb and the more he makes you feel good, the more you cant see what he is doing............. he is confusing you for a reason !!

have faith and walk away now..................... and then work on your feeings of low self esteem so that you find a man who wouldnt dream of dumping you for your friend and then want to come back...............................

[lickmyballs]

^ is that right whiffey

[peanut273]

Leapers, Hi...OK

Firstly HE LEFT YOU...for your mate,Why? Not only proving your mate is not a true mate (as mates dont do that to each other) but secondly proving he honestly does not care for you, If he did, he wouldn't have left! FACT!

You then say you think he's done this to get laid..OK...So you think he's just after sex? Not meaning to be nasty but please leave him. Forget him. What everyone is saying to you is right. HE'S NOT NICE. A nice guy would respect that you respect yourself, dont sleep about and will not offer it to him on a plate...decent guys WANT women like you! Men who are 'playing the field' steer clear of girls like you.

Your mate and your ex should be left to it. Cut ties, find better mates & eat lotsa ben & jerry's! :)