Underage drinking

[pericat]

My 16 year old daughter told me this afternoon that herself and her friends wanted to do something different before going back to school on Thursday. They were going out to dinner. Just a while ago she said they all want to go to a pub and have a few drinks instead. She knows she is not allowed and would prefer to go for a meal. She is allowed some drink at home or in friends houses as long as we know and the other parents know. It seems the other parents dont mind their kids going to the pub for a few drinks. Do they not know that the kids could be arrested for under age drinking and the police in this area come down very heavy on this. I am just having a rant - I have no problem with a few drinks but in someones house not where they could get arrested and end up in regular meetings with a J.O.

[B00]

Also highly unfair to the pub owner/ manager too, as they could lose their license.

When my daughter was 15, I caught her going into a pub- she didn't see me, i was driving past. Anyhoo, I marched into the pub, dragged her to the bar, informed the staff (very loudly) how old she was and also grassed on her friends.

It took her quite a while to show her face in the town pubs after that, I embarrassed the hell out of her.

[ChocolatChip]

I think maybe that even if you say that she is not allowed, it would be very hard to control her actions, due to peer pressure and they ease of being able to get fake ID (or someone elses).

[ChocolatChip]

Unless you do what BOO does. LOL

[pericat]

he he BOO - you are great ! Luckily this daughter tells me things and knows I dont have a problem with her drinking in moderation. It seems most are going to the pub and she is having another friend (who is not allowed eilther) over for pizza and a dvd.

[joggerjayne]

It's almost impossible to stop them.

But ... you should not actively condone it.

As BOO says, the Licensee commits a criminal offence if they manage to persuade him/her to serve them.

To be honest, we all did it ... but not with our parents' approval.

[Teleph0ne]

I find that the more you try to say no or ban something the more they revolt. It sounds like she has got her head skrewed on though.

[pericat]

ChocolatChip - my issue is not with her its with the parents who give in and let their kids do whatever. I know I cant control her actions and we have had situations believe me.

[B00]

rofl, I'm not naive enough to think she didn't do it again whilst still being underage- hell we all do it don't we? However I know it took her a loooooooong time to get a street cred back again ;-)

[pericat]

This one has her head screwed on - I have an older boy who doesnt though and I learnt a lot with him. But girls can go into pubs and no-one asks for IDs - its different with boys who cant get away with as much

[ChocolatChip]

Maybe, as I said, they know that they cannot do much about it, and as teleph0ne says the more you ban someone, the more likely they are to do it.
Plus, how do you know that their parents allow it? Maybe your daughter is telling you this to convince you to let her go?
I was clubbing and drinking from when I was 16, I'm only 19 now, and I do it even less. I don't feel the need to get drunk.

[pericat]

I know some of the parents and they do give in. Also my daughter is not even trying to convince me to let her go

[theonlyone]

Underage drinking is all about peer pressure and
street cred ,were I live the kids used to be on the
street hassling people to buy them booze and fags
but the police have now sorted them out . Good Luck .

[pericat]

no offense taken Mad - having a 20 year old who has broken every rule in the book I am well aware of peer pressure and am constantly vigilant and hopefully without seeming to be. Its tough and I think thats why a lot of parents give up and just dont bother any more

[pericat]

no we certainly cant and that is my gripe

[fu-manchu]

Who are you really MadAzaHatter

[lankeela]

Find out which pub and ring the landlord. He won't want to lose his licence and can ensure sees identification before serving them.