body language!

[Scarlett]

The bloke I fancy NEVER sits next to me. If we are in a pub or just having a meeting, he will always sit opposite. Sometimes I am embarassed how obvious it is. Do you think this is because

1) He does not fancy me in the slightest and wants me to get the message

2) He does fancy me and therefore wants to sit opposite for eye contact (someone told me that one!!)

3) I am smelly

 

I would appreciate your thoughts. Incidentally, I never sit next to him 'cos I don't want him to think I am after him. Sigh..

[Casey]

I think he likes you and wants to look at you, and also i reckon he will be too shy to sit next to you!

[Pinotage]

Speaking as a bloke, I reckon you need to take the first step. We are very dense where relationships are concerned and will not think you are after him. If you want to sit next to each other, then you sit next to him. He's shy.

[Allen Crisp]

This is the old question which has never been properly answered in my opinion - why is it so often left to the male half of the equation to make the first move and risk rejection? I think you should summon up the courage to ask him out. If he's not interested then all you've lost is a dream - it might be painful, but you'll know where you stand. How do you know he's not thinking of posting an identical question on this site about you? You never know unless you try.

[Yeah Bee]

You are smelly

[Octavius]

and you probably have scarlett fever.

Agree with the above, I have been going out with my gf for 2.5 years and I always sit opposite so that I can look at and talk to her.  If I sit next to her, it's because we want to hold hands or something (!)  Maybe you both are not that far ahead yet, but why not give it a go and ask him out properly. 

[natalie_1982]

In the grand scheme of things you have nothing to lose, if he doesn't fancy you then you know and can spend the rest of the party season looking for talent (me, shallow?) and if he does then you'll have a wonderful Xmas.  As for option 3, if he tells you that you're smelly then aunties always buy those soap/ bubble bath/ bath fizzer combo's for Xmas pressies so problem solved.

 

Seriously, I think you ought to say that basically you like him and you'd really like it if you could go out together for a drink (away from your work lot) and see how it goes.

 

Good luck! X

[MuppetBabies]

Scarlett, how long is a piece of string? You have absolutely no way of predicting what is going through his head. He could fancy you and want to make eye contact, but then he could also really like the shade of paint on the wall behing you, and would stare at it all day long if he had the chance. You are going to have to make a move - even if it's just sitting next to him. Men are not mind readers. Just do it!!

[Jules001]

I am really interested in people's body language as it gives so much away - next time he sits opposite you, study what he does . Good signs that he is interested are straightening his tie, if he doesn't wear one he may smooth his collar or brush imaginary dust off his clothing, he may also smooth his hair down. when he is seated he may also unconsciously spread his legs a little wider and his pupils will be dilated if he is really keen. If he is standing he may put his thumbs in his belt or belt loops or put his hands on his hips. If there are other people around, he will turn his foot to point at you.
Bad signs are holding a drink with both hands, he is making a barrier against you, or folding both arms across the chest. This might help you to work out whether he is interested or not.

[Dark Angel]

You sit next to him next time. Its not too pushy doing that. Its not like you're sitting on his lap!!!

[NONEXISTENT]

I disagree with what ''muppetbabies'' said. It is in fact very easy to know what people are thinking. I'd be able to tell you if he liked you, relatively easily but just from the fact the sits opposite you, thats not enough to go by. (although it is more positive than negative). A good indicator is where his knees are pointing. usually peoples knees will point in the area they have interest in. Also, does he maintain eye contact for extended periods of time/ do his pupils dilate etc. You can get into the whole neuro linguistic side of things, with rapport etc etc but to be honest you should ask him it'll save you a lot of bother. maybe he's just embarrassed as you are

[Scarlett]

Thankyou for all your helpful advice and ideas!! I will pay a lot more attention to other aspects of body language, and keep you posted.... And I will sit next to him!