Family split

[RavenD]

kk you'll have to bare with me as I need to give you some information before I ask the question.

My mother has always favored my brother and sister over me. I've always been at the back and it's took me years to finally accept this. she has emotionally hurt me so much that I ended up committing self harm in my early twenties.
I decided not to ever see my mother and family again as they never really liked me ( I still do not know the reason why she also lied in court about me also, saying that I'd hit her and broke her nose, but there was no physical evidence for it and she only won the case against me as she had my sister also lie in court to say I'd struck my mother )So I decided to not get in contact again. A few years later my wife gave birth to my daughter and I decided to get back in touch with my mother and family for a fresh start. Everyone met, forgave each other and was over joyed that the past was behind us.

So now favors my brother and sisters children over mine now. She will got to see my brother and sister who live further away than me but not come and visit my children or me. Her excuse is that I have a car( so does my brother ) So I saw the signs again and thought once bitten twice shy. So I decided I would stick to my guns and cut all my ties with my mother and my family.

Now here is the question!!!

After 6 months of no contact she has now sent my daughter a birthday card. With money. What should I do ?

Return the card as I would feel like a hypocrite if I let my daughter have the card and money. I just don't want my daughter to go through the same crap my mother made me go through when I was a kid favoring my brother and sister over me. I don't want my daughter seeing that her cousins are favored and liked more than her as it would be devastating.

[RavenD]

In A Pickle. Thanks for such a great answer. I think I will just return the card with the money and ask her not to send her anything again. My wife and I are going to move to Cardiff early next year, so I will be away from all of this hate and humiliation and have a new start with my wife and children.

I can't wait to get away. Thank you so much for your answer. It has help me make a decision.

[sandmaster]

I just want to wish you the best of luck. I was blessed with a son and daughter who gave me many years of happiness. Best of luck with your family - and I am sure you will enjoy Cardiff.