Weddings - Am I Alone?

[Apc2604]

Just reading through the news and comments about cancelled weddings, etc.

Am I alone in disliking weddings. Not marriages, but 'weddings' and receptions and all the paraphernalia that goes with them. I find eloping quite romantic! We try to find excuses to not attend weddings unless of course, it's close family.

[elliemay1]

My husband thinks that way too Apc. We also now only go to close family ones

[Jackdaw33]

Couldn't agree more. Me, I like a good funeral.

[rockyracoon]

I only really like weddings of family and good friends. I can take or leave (mainly leave) anyone else's

[Apc2604]

The expense of today's weddings is totally ridiculous. People say they can't afford to get married. What they mean is they can't afford an expensive showy wedding. Getting married is actually very cheap.

[bednobs]

I am now of an age where my friends are no longer getting married, and their children aren't yet old enough to be married, so I haven't been to a wedding for ages. My sister in law was due to get married in july, but her wedding was cancelled

[ummmm]

Same as Rocky.

I couldn't bare to spend vasts amounts on a wedding. I'd rather a registry office and an extended honeymoon.

[barry1010]

My wedding was just the way my wife and I wanted it. Immediate family only followed by a meal in a very good restaurant. No huge frock, top hats, bridesmaids, reception, wedding cake - just a lovely meaningful day shared with our loved ones.
We have no regrets about our choice. It shocks me the amount of money some people spend on their wedding, the high levels of stress it causes in the months leading up to it (and in many cases afterwards, too, trying to pay for it).
Thankfully all my children had similar, simple weddings

[bednobs]

I thought you were in your 30s/40s barry!

[MallyJ]

I am not fond of weddings either ... the last one I was invited to included a hen weekend inSpain, a day in a hot tub in someones garden being waited on by young men in few clothes, then only invited to the reception - which would have involved a night in a hotel miles away from home ...all in all I am glad to say that we had other 'things to go to on those days......!! We booked a registry office and invited 6 people we knew well... dinner at a local restaurant and a visit to our local pub !!

[Apc2604]

We got married in a registry office on a Monday morning in January
and went back to my parents house for drinks and nibbles. OH went back to a night shift on Wednesday. We had our honeymoon in Spain 7 weeks before getting married. It's where we decided to wed! Neither of us had any money!

My son got married 8 years ago in much the same fashion.

[Apc2604]

I am glad I am not alone!

[Gill1941]

Went to a lovely wedding last week. My son's.
Just immediate family at the ceremony and bride and groom stayed at the hotel for the w/e.
Lovely company, great food and beautiful location. What more do you want?
Nobody was going to stop me hugging my son on his wedding day!

[Apc2604]

Sounds good Gill. And nobody would stop me hugging my son on his wedding day. He doesn't hug me now because im vulnerable and he is mixing with people. I am missing his hugs.

[Apc2604]

You don't need to spend loads of money to make an occasion special. Another reason i dont do weddings - I don't like having to dress up and putting weddingy clothes on feels like dressing up to me - a nightmare!

[teacake44]

Always hated them, much to formal, I always got the feeling everyone was paying more attention to what each other was wearing, than the bride and groom. :0)

[Baldric]

Kate and I got married on 10/9/87 her choice of date, but I liked it.
We booked a Reg. Office, arranged for our two best friends to have a day off and just did it.

[jakep]

No, you’re definitely not alone.
We did the paperwork here (Kent) and then went to the Isle of Wight with our two dogs and oh’s parents. Register office, pub, job done!

[woofgang]

It makes me bite the table when people say "oh we can't afford to get married" I have been to some lovely weddings and receptions including my own but they were very much on the casual and home made end of the spectrum. This next bit is going to sound cruel but heigh ho. I would no more have arranged an as big as allowed expensive wedding for immediately it was going to be allowed than I would have rushed off to Spain...not that I need a wedding or would go on hols to Spain under any circs! All along we have been told that lockdown loosening could only happen if all else was ok and it was a plan not a promise. Pretty silly to leap in with both feet and a shedload of money without being sure things weren't going to go wrong.

[Bazile]

Each to their own , I suppose

For some people the whole traditional ceremony and wedding breakfast thing is a must for one of the most important days of their lives

As for attending weddings if it's family then then definitely yes .

Anyone else , I'm easy , so long as I'm invited to the church as well as the wedding breakfast :-)

[Apc2604]

Woofy. Totally with you on this. And I don't think these big showy weddings are romantic in any way. Weddings are now a big industry. And as for hen and stag parties going abroad and spending yet more money ...... don't get me started! I hear often the words that every girl wants to feel like a princess for the day. Load of rubbish!