Facebook R.I.P. Sites

[daffy654]

Can somebody please explain to me why idiots feel the need to post stupid and inappropriate comments and photos on the sites people put on Facebook as a memorial for their deceased friends or family?

I have just been reading the online local newspaper for my area (Blackpool Gazette) and there is a story there about two local young women who recently died whose memorial sites have been defaced in this way. One of the FB sites has a photo supposedly of one of the dead women (Jane Clough, who was stabbed to death by an ex) lying alongside a pool of blood and a large knife. There is another hideous photo of a man lying face down with his neck sliced and his head caved in.

What amusement or satisfaction do these twisted individuals get by upsetting people with these actions?


Some people just sicken and baffle me!

[Booldawg]

I agree, if you aint got nothing nice to say then dont say anything. People do it purely for reaction.

TBH I dont agree with these type of pages anyway. The internet isnt a place to trawl your grief across. I've noticed people using FB statuses to court attention to themselves. FB is a great place to catch up with people, share piccies etc - but some people like to get maudlin.

[China Doll]

I think that the notions of 'privacy', 'discretion' and 'taste' largely seem to have gone to room 101 these days. Everything thing is known and people seem to want everyone to know about whatever it is they deem worthy, regardless of whether said woman would ever want to be displayed in this way as a memorial to her suffering.

I've no idea why people do it. I imagine they have their reasons but I'm glad I'm not in their heads.

[China Doll]

Agreed Booldawg. Totally unnecessary and a real bug-bear of mine. I'm a very private person so maybe I'll never understand it but I simply can not understand the need for it.

[daffy654]

Many of these memorial pages/groups also seem to be set up by people who never even met the person it is for. Then more people who never knew them join up and post on the wall. :-/

I know that a fair amount of internet users like to 'troll' sites, but the sort of thing in my op is beyond trolling!

[stokemaveric]

its a bit like that ''gone too soon'' website...all rather macabre to me...

[daffy654]

I'm also quite a private person. I think I will have to make it very clear to my family that I don't want a bloody FB memorial site for me when I die!

[China Doll]

Aye daffy... that'll be another of my biggest irritations! People who latch on to other peoples grief and feed on it or somehow manage to make that grief a source of their sadness for attention seeking purposes. It's in the worst possible taste and it's narssasistic (sp). Sharing stories or experiences is one thing, actually getting some kind of sick kick out of it (not that people who do this would ever admit it) is quite another.

I can feel my blood pressure rising as I type... ;0)

[yinyang]

I also think of grief as a private thing. Wouldn't want a FB thing sat up for me and if I should be unlucky enough to get hit by a bus I don't want flowers tied to a chain link fence beside it.

[daffy654]

Reminds me of a joke I heard once CD.

Q: "What is the difference between a tragedy and a cow?"
A: "Most Scousers don't know how to milk a cow".

(no offence to Liverpudlians btw)

[looobylooo]

ive just had a look daffy - what a bl00dy twisted pathetic thing to do ... my god some people are soo sick!

[China Doll]

Lol... S'bad Daffy, I'm telling... ;oP

[bobjugs12]

I've already stated that if I die, I want a public holiday declared, I want marching bands and military parades, I want a Red Arrows flypast. That way I can still bugger up peoples day, even if I'm dead lol

[Booldawg]

I would like an International Centre of Learning built to educate the worlds population what it was like to be me.

This would include a 'booldawg' simulator, fully hydraulic, which would map out in exact detail my 3 mile ride to work across the golf course.

[joko]

i think is just the modern way of placing an ad in the echo or local paper in memoriam page - and cheaper and easier too

[karenmac60]

I remember when those 2 teenage girls jumped off the Erskine Bridge last year there were some really sick folk leaving things on their bebo sites - cartoons and really horrible nasty sick comments. I cannot understand what would make someone want to do that, and it must have been so painful for their families reading it.

[bobjugs12]

Joko, this is not the updated version of an obituary.

This is a way for grief-whores to feel bereavement for somebody they had no connection with at all. It's the same as the 38,000 people who turned up for Jayde Goody's funeral. Did they have any connection with her, no. But they still wanted to be part of something,
It's offensive and upsetting to the families involved as well.

[joko]

its clearly a fake photo of the girl...the blood isnt really touching her and and splashes and dribbles etc are just as though its dripped from a bottle... (i know this as its part of my job)

what a sick weirdo to do that...i hope someone can identify the girl in the pic...

[Dris]

Following on from bobjugs comments was anyone else utterly astonished at people taking pictures of Alex Higgins coffins going into the church yesterday? Now IMO that trawled the depths.

[ummmm]

There is a rest in peace page for my sons friend who died in Blackpool recently. Some then came on a hoaxed a death. Pretty sick...

Remember the James Bulger anniversary...someone set up an account in his name with 'had it coming' across his picture.

Makes the mind boggle...

[Dris]

*coffin*

I reported that pic as I couldnt believe anyone would be as sick as to post that.I did go and have a look -sick.

I dont agree with FB RIP sites-can understand friends leaving messages on the deceaseds existing site.That is perfectly natural.